Gary Chapman Quotes

Negotiation is empathy. It's almost trite to say that if you can't put yourself in the seat of the other person you're speaking with, you're not going to do well. It's not about being a bully, not about making offers people can't refuse.

We cannot learn from one another until we stop shouting at one another

When you're not being heard - I can't tell you what to do when you're not being heard. I do think there is a way to move in love and get things done, though.

'The Conversation' will hopefully touch on issues that will move people to want to strengthen communication and look to each other for solutions.

We cannot have that relationship if we only dictate or threaten and condemn those who disagree.

We cannot learn from one another until we stop shouting at one another - until we speak quietly enough so that our words can be heard as well as our voices.

It’s important for me to hear others position and understand them.

When people realize they're being heard, and have a seat at the table, things seem to work out.

Don't try to convince your partner you are right. Instead of trying to win arguments, try to have a winning relationship!

The key is that when we disagree, we really hear the other one out and agree that there is a more elegant solution than one of us 'winning.'

Sharing is a much better way to communicate than proving.

You need to be able to agree from time to time if we're going to get anywhere. Once you have started a civil dialogue, it's a much smoother road to compromise. The key thing to remember is it's a daily practice.

Know how to listen, and you will profit even from those who talk badly.

You should communicate with your other one. Understanding what they are on about is pretty key.

When you have a conflict, that means that there are truths that have to be addressed on each side of the conflict. And when you have a conflict, then it's an educational process to try to resolve the conflict. And to resolve that, you have to get people on both sides of the conflict involved so that they can dialogue.

The best way to resolve any problem in the human world is for all sides to sit down and talk.

I do believe that in order to be a successful negotiator that as a diplomat, you have to be able to put yourself into the other person's shoes. Unless you can understand what is motivating them, you are never going to be able to figure out how to solve a particular problem.

Understanding is a two-way street.

I hope it goes beyond meeting with them to a willingness to listen and compromise on issues.

I simply do not think that yelling, swearing, threatening or belittling will get you to the place you want to be faster than kindness, understanding, patience and a little willingness to compromise.

When you show deep empathy toward others, their defensive energy goes down, and positive energy replaces it. That's when you can get more creative in solving problems.

It's better for me to go up against someone's passion with my passion and then clarifying something that he wrote. Then I know how to work around certain things.

In this present culture, we need to find the means to work and live together with less aggression if we are to resolve the serious problems that afflict and impede us.

We can argue and we can disagree, but we don’t need to poke our fingers in each other’s eyes in order to get our points across.

The more people talk directly to each other, the better. Dialogue is the way of solving issues.