Melody Beattie Quotes

You have to be reasonable with yourself and not feel guilty when things aren't perfect.

I don't punish myself. Life's too short.

As I have got older, I have become easier on myself. It's about realising things can't be perfect.

Self-compassion is how we recover.

I find it takes a lot of strength to endure myself.

To my younger self, I would say not to be so hard on yourself. I think that you are your biggest critic.

Yoga has given me more compassion for my imperfections.

We tend to think being hard on ourselves will make us strong. But it is cherishing ourselves that gives us strength

I've learned to take things a little more easily, to be a little more forgiving of myself.

I stopped beating up on myself. I stopped asking myself why I didn't sell this number of records, why I don't have corporate sponsorship. I just don't buy into any of that anymore.

I have no control over what people think, and if I were to spend energy on that, I would be a lifeless, deadened human being.

There's no sense in making life seem like it's a struggle, because that doesn't make anybody feel better.

We not only need to work happy, we need to work at being happy.

Life is where you're at. Whatever you're doing is enough. You don't need to do everything well all the time. When you live your life like that, it's a huge relief.

You have to make peace with life.

Women need to hear the words, 'It's okay if things don't go exactly the way you want them to.' Give yourself a break!

When you treat yourself with the kindness and high regard that you would give to one of your spiritual heroes, your body becomes the epicenter of quiet joy rather than a battlefield for the ego.

We all go through sad times, but I was brought up to be positive.

I try to take the time to appreciate and I certainly do appreciate and I do feel proud but that is probably one of the things I need to work on, building a bit of time for myself.

I think when I look out and I see there's so much negativity in the world and a lot of people are unhappy and a lot people are anxious, it just feels like that's one view of the world. But you don't have to always focus on that view of the world.

We all have our down days, but it's not hard to smile and say, 'Thank you.'

Life is hard. It is not too short, it is too long. But you have to learn how to live; you have to have a sense of humour.

As a shame researcher, I know that the very best thing to do in the midst of a shame attack is totally counterintuitive: Practice courage and reach out!

After many years of self-flagellation, I've realised that beating myself up doesn't get me anywhere.

Sure, I get the blues. But what I try to do, is apply joy to the blues, you know? I don't know if it's a technique, or just being bent that way, being raised by the folks I was raised by.