Forgiveness is a gift to yourself. It frees you from the past, past experiences, and past relationships. It allows you to live in the present time. When you forgive yourself and forgive others, you are indeed free.
Forgiving yourself, not guilt, increases personal accountability.
Finally, be kind to yourself and have a good support system.
We all have moments of weakness. It’s how we recover from them that really counts.
A lot of people who have depression understand that the last thing in the world you want to do when you're feeling that way is get up and exercise. It's virtually impossible to do that. It's like somebody beating you.
I'm one of the most sensitive human beings on Earth - and I know it.
Vulnerability is the core of shame and fear and our struggle for worthiness, but it appears that it's also the birthplace of joy, of creativity, of belonging, of love.
'Focusing' is no conventional repackaging of self-help wisdom. It is at once a manual and a philosophy. It talks about the body's wisdom, the steps of the focusing technique, how to discover the richness in others by learning to listen.
But what if I should discover that the least amongst them all, the poorest of all beggars, the most impudent of all offenders, yea the very fiend himself— that these are within me, and that I myself stand in need of the alms of my own kindness, that I myself am the enemy who must be loved— what then?
Putting yourself first is not selfish. Quite the opposite. You must put your happiness and health first before you can be of help to anyone else.
To love oneself is the beginning of a lifelong romance.
Loving the self, to me, begins with never ever criticizing ourselves for anything. Criticism locks us into the very pattern we are trying to change. Understanding and being gentle with ourselves helps us to move out of it. Remember, you have been criticizing yourself for years, and it hasn't worked. Try approving of yourself and see what happens.
I cannot love anyone if I hate myself. That is the reason why we feel so extremely uncomfortable in the presence of people who are noted for their special virtuousness, for they radiate an atmosphere of the torture they inflict on themselves. That is not a virtue but a vice.
It's just like I'm an athlete, I'm a human being. I have personal issues going on.
It is easy to look down on others; to look down on ourselves is the difficulty.
Making matters worse is people's natural inclination to be easy on themselves, judging themselves according to their good intentions-while holding others to a higher standard and judging them by their worst actions.
I am ugly, but what I do have is charm.
Once we realize that imperfect understanding is the human condition, there is no shame in being wrong, only in failing to correct our mistakes.
Remember how far you've come, not just how far you have to go.
It is easy enough to praise men for the courage of their convictions. I wish I could teach the sad young of this mealy generation the courage of their confusions.
In the end they'll judge me anyway, so whatever.
To fall in love with yourself is the first secret to happiness.
You can't build joy on a feeling of self-loathing.
What other people think of me is their problem - not mine.
Never apologize for showing feeling. When you do so, you apologize for the truth.
