Gabrielle Bernstein Quotes

I used to be a major people pleaser, but that way purgatory lies.

It's not healthy to ever put someone first before yourself.

Sometimes, too often, I don't want to muster the energy. Stress and anxiety seem easier.

Don’t sacrifice yourself too much, because if you sacrifice too much there’s nothing else you can give and nobody will care for you.

Standing up for yourself doesn't always involve verbal confrontation. Sometimes it's about not wasting energy on people who are negative.

It's a big issue for me - feeling like I should be helping every person who asks for something or who has a problem.

You can't be everybody's friend, you can't save the world, I learned this word: self-preservation. Once you do that, you can be friends with people, but how would you be a friend to anybody if you're not a friend to yourself.

The better you learn to take care of yourself, the less you settle for being around people who can't or won't treat you as well as you're accustomed.

When we fail to set boundaries and hold people accountable, we feel used and mistreated.

I've always gotten myself overly involved in supporting other women who've not always been as supportive in return.

It's very hard to balance being there for somebody else and taking care of yourself.

Most of the people I know who were raised to be accommodating or were raised to just be nice and put everybody's needs ahead of theirs, there comes a moment when the pressure builds and they can't do it anymore. They have needs and they feel neglected and they usually explode.

Pay mind to your own life, your own health, and wholeness. A bleeding heart is of no help to anyone if it bleeds to death.

A running theme in my life is my inability to say no to anything.

I'm not going to be everything to everyone.

You can say no to people who make you feel bad about yourself. To people who backstab you or make you feel anxious in any way.

Some stresses are unavoidable - it's just part of life. One of the things I do to avoid stress is not work with people that I don't really like or drive me crazy.

I don't like saying 'no' to people, and I'm going to have to learn how to say 'no' more.

As women, we have more of a tendency to be people-pleasers, and I know a lot of women who are not vocal about what makes them happy.

I believe a lot of disease comes from anxiety, loneliness.

You can't take care of charity unless you take care of yourself first.

Sometimes we are so busy helping others that we forget about ourselves. Remember, it's okay to say no and to ask others to carry their own weight.

My health is more important than arguing and bickering with people.

My long-term dream is to have self-education in schools for mental, physical, and emotional health because we need to learn how to speak to ourselves in a loving way and to each other.

Creating boundaries for yourself is healthy. A lot of panic attacks, in my experience, can be stopped by actually saying to somebody, 'Sorry I can't actually do this because I feel uncomfortable.'