Jim Butcher Quotes

It's very hard to balance being there for somebody else and taking care of yourself.

Don't fall into the trap of putting yourself last on the list or not even putting yourself on the list. That's not balance; it's not even healthy.

Pay mind to your own life, your own health, and wholeness. A bleeding heart is of no help to anyone if it bleeds to death.

I realized I was trained my whole life to be an accommodating person, to make sure that everybody is comfortable before I'm comfortable. After giving so much of myself to strangers, I learned to care for myself a little more, especially on tour.

It's not healthy to ever put someone first before yourself.

Don’t sacrifice yourself too much, because if you sacrifice too much there’s nothing else you can give and nobody will care for you.

There is just something that people taught me in general for self-care, would just be to spend some time alone and to protect yourself. Learning to say no is something that helps in that, and what you're comfortable with and what you're not comfortable with, and finding the line. That's it. Otherwise it's just going to be really hard.

There's a fine line between helping others and being a people pleaser, and mistaking one for the other can be hugely detrimental. When we put others' needs before our own, we deplete our energy, which can lead to depression, physical illness, and overwhelm.

I have no control over what people think, and if I were to spend energy on that, I would be a lifeless, deadened human being.

I just don't deal with the negativity. I can't get involved in that side of it. I don't understand it, and you can't let it take away from your life and what you are trying to do.

If someone decides they're not going to be happy, it's not your problem. You don't have to spend your time and energy trying to cheer up someone who has already decided to stay in a bad mood. Believe it or not, you can actually hurt people by playing into their self-pity.

We have to take care of ourselves if we are going to take care of anyone else properly.

I used to tell moms that for the sake of their well-being they had to put themselves first. But I know now that's not always possible.

I depleted myself to the point where I had nothing left.

You can't be a resource for others unless you nourish yourself.

Taking care of yourself is being there for your kids, like how on a plane, they tell you to put on your oxygen mask first.

Too often, I've put my career and helping others ahead of my own needs.

I'm not going to be everything to everyone.

My personal life, my normal life, is so important to me. To be able to go back to my personal life and leave characters behind is important; I don't keep them with me.

Caring burns a lot of fuel - psychological and physical, too, if any lifting is involved. The energy tank is soon emptied, and the toll caring takes is well documented. It's called carer burn-out.

If you're gonna fall apart, do it in your own bedroom.

You can't just take care of everybody else all the time.

People think if you look after yourself you're being selfish, you know.

The trouble is that as women we try to take care of everybody else before we take care of ourselves.

It could be a stupid thing to say, but people should realize that it is easy to get concerned about yourself and to lose contact.