Sandra Bernhard Quotes

There's a fine line between helping others and being a people pleaser, and mistaking one for the other can be hugely detrimental. When we put others' needs before our own, we deplete our energy, which can lead to depression, physical illness, and overwhelm.

You can say no to people who make you feel bad about yourself. To people who backstab you or make you feel anxious in any way.

As women, we have more of a tendency to be people-pleasers, and I know a lot of women who are not vocal about what makes them happy.

I'm always helping out girlfriends, and then I'm wondering, who's going to look after me?

Know your worth and please don't invest in toxic people or relationships, because any bond that requires servicing is not worth your time.

You can't be everything for another person.

It's very hard to balance being there for somebody else and taking care of yourself.

I used to be a major people pleaser, but that way purgatory lies.

Sometimes I want to just pull the off switch, but you can't because if you go outside, you have to give people your all. You can't say, 'Oh, you know what? I'm not feeling good today.' No. No one's trying to hear that. When a woman comes up to you and says, 'Hey, my daughter's your biggest fan. Can we have a picture?' - you can't say no.

I don't want to listen to everybody's problems all the time. And I doubt anybody wants to listen to mine.

I'm the kindest, most supportive friend ever, probably to my own detriment, but I hope that I am toughening up a little bit.

With someone who is genuinely abusive or a bad person, you should just get out of town. But if they're being the best person they know how to be, then you have to decide if there isn't much there you can love and not become consumed with what they're not able to give you.

I don't want to spend my energy on people who don't like me.

Creating boundaries for yourself is healthy. A lot of panic attacks, in my experience, can be stopped by actually saying to somebody, 'Sorry I can't actually do this because I feel uncomfortable.'

Sometimes if you spend your time focusing on other people, you give them energy over you; you give them power.

I can't spend my life worrying about others.

I realized I was trained my whole life to be an accommodating person, to make sure that everybody is comfortable before I'm comfortable. After giving so much of myself to strangers, I learned to care for myself a little more, especially on tour.

It's not healthy to ever put someone first before yourself.

I eliminated stress by eliminating people that I don't enjoy working with.

If there are people who treat me wrong, I either talk to them about it, or I don't talk to them anymore. It's been the most thoughtful and considerate thing I could do for myself and other people. I am going to try to do that forever.

When you learn to say yes to yourself, you will be able to say no to others, with love.

You have to learn how to care about people without taking on all of their problems.

Be friendly to everybody; protect yourself; people sometimes want a piece of you for no good reason; and always do things out of love not fear.

Anyone who assesses you or your relationship as disposable is not worthy of your time or tears.

Never lie down with a woman who's got more troubles than you.