Charles Bukowski Quotes

I had some words with my wife, and she had some paragraphs with me.

I've been married to the same man for all this time. The way we fight sometimes, you can tell.

Marriage is one long conversation, chequered by disputes.

Marriage is a series of desperate arguments people feel passionately about.

Each couple's version of intimacy is so fascinating to me. A friend will tell me about her marriage, and I'll think, 'Yikes, they have horrible communication! They're going to get divorced!' And then I'll hear about them at another time and think, 'Wow, they love each other so much!'

We had that horrible experience with 'Behind the Music' where they just made it all salacious. That's not about the band - that's a soap opera. If you're together with a spouse or a partner for 40 years, you're going to have arguments. But if you're with four other people, you're going have exponentially that many more things happen.

Another step had her backed up against the wall, and he braced his arms on both sides of her. "I'm beginning to look forward to this marriage, just so I can spend the rest of my life making you miserable." Alexandra was too angry to be intimidated. "Misery loves company, sweetheart," she shot back. "So don't think I'll be suffering mine alone." She slipped out from under his arm and marched out the door.

I've never won an argument with my wife; and the only time I thought I had I found out the argument wasn't over yet.

When married one has to get into an argument once in a while since in this way one learns about the other.

When a girl uses six derogatory adjectives in her attempt to paint the portrait of the loved one, it means something. One may indicate a merely temporary tiff. Six is big stuff.

The concept of two people living together for 25 years without a serious dispute suggests a lack of spirit only to be admired in sheep.

Divorce can be crazy. Man, if you're happy... Love is a beast, man. Hold on. Be prepared for any way it may go, and be honest.

Never argue with your wife about hostility when she's a certified Freudian.

Marriage is the torment of one, the felicity of two, the strife and enmity of three.

Being in a band with my wife, I'm very aware of the multitude of ways that can go wrong. We're best friends and are interested in the same things, so it's natural to make music together.

Being married to a psychologist, I realize that I learn more from imperfections.

It's volatile, the marriage. Which one isn't? Nothing better than a good, full-on row. Get it all out. Say rude and nasty things. And then be sorry. Genuinely sorry, afterwards.

You can be happy, or you can be right. If you want to be part of a couple and win every argument, you're in trouble.

I've always thought of, of a relationship with an actor to an audience as a marriage, you know. And a story, you know. And there are ups and downs, and you work through them, and you work with them.

I think if one wants to be in a continual state of insanity one should stay married to that writing partner.

I have been doing marriage counseling for about 15 years and I realized that what makes one person feel loved, doesn't make another person feel loved.

If you want to improve a relationship, it's not that you demand your spouse to change. You have to ask, 'Where did I fail in this relationship?'

Marriage is more complex than we think.

The first year of marriage, you definitely get to throw the wife card out whenever you're mad.

Every partner you get is so different, you learn a lot from each of them.