Anthony Storr Quotes

I think there's a big difference between loving someone out of duty and dependency and loving someone because you really are able to sort of grow and be whole in the context of that relationship.

Love is a component of many different things - the baggage you bring, the moment, what you need in your life, seeing someone as a portal for understanding everything, and all the intensity that brings. It's not something to count on and act like it's a stable thing.

I think as humans we do want to control our relationships, and you can't. It's probably better that you can't. That wouldn't be a real relationship, and we'd never learn and grow.

I'm pretty sensitive. My feelings get hurt a lot easier than people think, but I try take it all with grain of salt. For a relationship, I want someone who is really secure, confident and fulfilled, not tripping with what I do.

If you have feelings for someone, be honest with yourself and the person you care about, but trust that there is someone out there who will love you for who you are and will stay by your side.

I learned again and again in my life, until you get your own act together, you’re not ready for Big Love. What you’re ready for is one of those codependent relationships where you desperately need a partner.

Learning unconditional love helped me have healthier relationships, including my current marriage.

Don't walk in front of me, I may not follow. Don't walk behind me, I may not lead. There is only one happiness in life, to love and be loved.

True friendship can afford true knowledge. It does not depend on darkness and ignorance.

I'm not a terrible person, I know that, but sometimes in a relationship, I can be crappy.

I don't need to control anything. Even with romantic partnerships, I don't need to control anyone.

Love is very dangerous if you just have love and don't have the ability to be lovable.

I think being able to really fall in love with someone is the craziest thing that could ever happen. You know, allowing yourself to really go there and really feel those things is extremely scary.

I don't think it's necessarily healthy to go into relationships as a needy person. Better to go in with a full deck.

I know now that there are men out there who are, for me, the whole package, who are supportive of my successes because they know I will be just as supportive of theirs. I'm less tolerant of foolishness now; I know that it's important I not tie myself up with the wrong person, because then I will miss the right person coming along.

In an ecology of love, people can relate in trust and face the future without fear. They do not need to play it safe. They can take uncertainty in their stride.

Love is that condition in which the happiness of another person is essential to your own... Jealousy is a disease, love is a healthy condition. The immature mind often mistakes one for the other, or assumes that the greater the love, the greater the jealousy.

The key is allowing your partner to be who they are and not having expectations that really have nothing to do with the person you married.

I have rules for a lot of areas of my life. Love is not going to be one of them.

You give up your narcissism, your egotism. That's how you achieve chemistry.

Don't try to change anybody. And they should let you be yourself, 'You loved me when you met me, so let's keep going!'

It's important to fall in love with someone you don't want to change.

I've discovered new parts of my manhood, places I couldn't get to without loving someone else unconditionally and putting others before myself.

In the past I would self destruct when it came to love - I was immature, throwing myself into things but now times have changed, I want a relationship where you understand the other person.

When you love someone, you don't try to change them.