Attachment Issues Quotes

If you're getting abandonment, if you're getting abuse as a child, if you're getting uncertainty when you're a child, unfortunately you tend to look for that in your life later on, and you think that's love.

Shouldn't letting go be painless if you've never learned how to hold on?

I think it's possible to have experiences of love without attachment, but I think part of our conditioning is to grasp at times, especially when there are unmet needs. It's part of our nervous system to hold on to where we think those needs will be met.

A parent who is high is unavailable to attend to the needs of a child.

A passionate attachment of one nation for another produces a variety of evils

People who are incapable of having any kind of intimate relationship have to turn to feeling this incredible hunger and void, have to turn to some quantifiable external product to make them feel whole.

It is your attachment that creates hell.

Desire creates havoc when it is the only thing between two people, or when it is what's missing.

Don't be a keeper.

I started running away when I was five years old. It wasn't until I was an adult that I realized what I really wanted was somebody to come after me when I was running away.

I want somebody who's gonna need me.

I don't know if I want a steady relationship, but I'm terrified of losing you.

I am a complete sentimentalist when it comes to clothes. I have so many memories attached to them that I can't throw anything out.

My mother wanted to shrink from my clinging, but did not.

[...] Tess and I are a good match. She understands intimately where I came from. She can cheer me up on my darkest days. It's as if she came perfectly happy home instead of what Kaede just told me. I feel a relaxing warmth at the thought, realizing suddenly how much I'm anticipating meeting up with Tess again. Where she goes, I go, and vice versa. Peas in a pod. Then there's June. Even the thought of her name makes it hard for me to breathe. I'm almost embarrassed by my reaction. Are June and I a good match? No. It's the first word to pop into my mind. And yet, still.

No matter what god or doctrine you believe in, if you become attached to it, your belief will be based more or less on a self-centered idea.

I hate how the people who really get you are the ones you can never hold on to for very long. And the ones who don’t understand you at all stick around.

‎Drop the idea that attachment and love are one thing. They are enemies. It is attachment that destroys all love. If you feed, if you nourish attachment, love will be destroyed; If you feed and nourish love, attachment will fall away by itself. They are not one; they are two separate entities, and antagonistic to each other.

When you own a piano, it's harder to think about moving.

You will notice that what we are aiming at when we fall in love is a very strange paradox. The paradox consists of the fact that, when we fall in love, we are seeking to re-find all or some of the people to whom we were attached as children. On the other hand, we ask our beloved to correct all of the wrongs that these early parents or siblings inflicted upon us. So that love contains in it the contradiction: The attempt to return to the past and the attempt to undo the past.

Emotional attachment to Maya is totally painful, this is a bad bargain.

I get pretty attached to the majority of the characters I play. I can't help myself.

What interests me, ... is why people are so repelled when, after all, everyone started life attached. In a sense, the twins have never been born because they are still tied by an umbilical cord. Relationships between women - daughters, mothers, friends - are one of my strong interests.

I'm overly sentimental and don't throw things away.

I don't like to leave anything,' the man said. 'I don't like to leave things behind.