Sebastian Stan Quotes

Right now the only people I can really fall in love with are people who don't really, truly want me around. Now why do I do that?

I've overcome neglect and deprivation, abandonment and abuse.

Why do people stay in relationships that are tough from almost the very beginning?

I was in the orphanage in New Orleans until I was almost a year old. I don't think I ever got held by my mama, so that was completely and utterly traumatic. I think it was trauma from the first breath, and I think I've spent my whole life trying to heal from that trauma. So it shaped my brain.

When a person only knows abuse, they shift their whole emotional and spiritual life into the context of that abuse. If all you've ever known is to be hurt by the one that pretends to love you, then many times you go to the one who hurts you for love.

For most of my life, I believed that my father had broken many of my bones. They were emotional and psychological bones; things no one could see, things that caused me to limp through life clutching for and holding on to people and situations that often rendered me immobile.

I get angry at myself for staying in relationships way too long.

I grew up being terrified of my parents, particularly my father figures.

There's a fascinating school of thought that some women are relationship addicts. You get really strung out on a guy who's not returning your enthusiasm and tell yourself you're going to fix him and make him better, and of course it's impossible.

I was a child, and my mother was psychotic. She loved me, but I didn't really feel I had a mother. And when you live with somebody who is paranoid and thinks you're trying to kill them all the time, you tend to feel a little betrayed.

If your parents ignored you, or if they are just not emotionally available, or if they yell a lot, that is a type of trauma.

They say that abandonment is a wound that never heals. I say only that an abandoned child never forgets.

I've always been the kind of woman who had a man in her life even when he was the wrong man.

I had a very rocky, difficult, emotional childhood with my parents.

It's a recurring thing: It's that I fall really deeply for bad relationships. It's just always been this way and not changing.

I think I'm now screwed for life because my first relationship was the most bizarre relationship ever, and I'm not normal any more. I've kind of been spoiled, and I guess I am kind of screwed up now.

The people and places that cause terror in childhood cause attraction in adulthood. We end up being repetitively attracted to the same kind of person that obliges us by acting out the same behavior over again.

I probably gave up on my dad when I was born.

It's a painful thing to talk about my childhood. I kind of don't talk about it much.

My mother was a terrible narcissist and I could well have turned out like her.

I'm a fixer, unfortunately. I'm like, 'Oh, I can fix you.' But it's not just guys I'm dating anymore. It's this entire legion of young girls who tell me they need me to maintain any sort of sanity or peace.

There have been a couple specific instances where I've felt like I couldn't survive without interacting with a certain person. I've been involved with some pretty manipulative people who have told me the same thought: that I can't live without them.

My father passed away when I was pretty young. I was 7 years old, and I think when that happens, there are a variety of ways that a young person can react to that loss. I think, for me, it kind of put me in a perpetual state of feeling like something is wrong with me and like I didn't belong, or everybody else had things that I didn't have.

One of the saddest things in this world is to see a child grow up hating one of their parents because they only got one side of the story.

I don't want to keep talking about my upbringing because people always resort to the past and what happened when I was younger.