Paulo Coelho Quotes

Love one another, but make not a bond of love.

If I love you, what business is it of yours?

Isn't it possible, he wondered, for one person to love another without trying to own each other? Or is that buried so deep in our genes that we can never get it out? Territoriality.

A loving relationship is one in which the loved one is free to be himself -- to laugh with me, but never at me; to cry with me, but never because of me; to love life, to love himself, to love being loved. Such a relationship is based upon freedom and can never grow in a jealous heart

The capacity to be alone is the capacity to love. It may look paradoxical to you, but it is not. It is an existential truth: only those people who are capable of being alone are capable of love, of sharing, of going into the deepest core of the other person without possessing the other, without becoming dependent on the other, without reducing the other to a thing, and without becoming addicted to the other.

Don't walk in front of me, I may not follow. Don't walk behind me, I may not lead. There is only one happiness in life, to love and be loved.

It is only when we no longer compulsively need someone that we can have a real relationship with them.

I think love has something to do with allowing a person you claim to love to enter a larger arena than the one you create for them.

But let there be spaces in your togetherness and let the winds of the heavens dance between you. Love one another but make not a bond of love: let it rather be a moving sea between the shores of your souls.

No one worth possessing can be quite possessed.

If I find the person that I love, it is because I love them, not because I will be dependent on them.

I had a career and I came to motherhood late and am not married and have never had such a trusting relationship with a man - and trust is where the real power of love comes from.

I have a lady, she's a great lady. I love her a lot, she loves me. We're on the same page. Whenever that day happens when we're not on the same page we'll move forward with it. We're interested in having our lives be our lives right now and not a third person's vis-a-vis marriage and whatever that means.

I don't believe that if you love somebody you have to possess him, live with him or marry him.

It is a false belief to think you can own somebody, I'm out of that now. The man should understand he does not own the woman, and the woman should understand she does not own the man.

Love does not cause suffering: what causes it is the sense of ownership, which is love's opposite.

Love is generally confused with dependence; but in point of fact, you can love only in proportion to your capacity for independence.

Marriage and its entourage of possession and jealousy enslave the spirit.

You must love in such a way that the person you love feels free.

Love is the revelation of the other person's freedom.

If you love someone, set them free. If they come back they're yours; if they don't they never were.

It's important in a relationship to have moments when you do your own thing.

I had a serious boyfriend in high school, but we would take breaks in between. You shouldn't always have a boyfriend!

Love one another, but make not a bond of love: Let it rather be a moving sea between the shores of your souls.

Too many people get married and lose themselves. You have to fiercely hold on to who you are, and you need to celebrate that in the other person because that's what made you fall in love in the first place.