Cass McCombs Quotes

One of the most important of life´s lessons is to learn independance, to understand freedom. This means independence from attachments, from results, from opinions, and from expectations. Breaking attachments leads to freedom, but breaking attachments does not mean abandoning a loving and meaningful relationship, a relationship that nourrishes your soul. It means ending dependency on any person or thing. Love is never a dependency.

Love is the ability and willingness to allow those that you care for to be what they choose for themselves without any insistence that they satisfy you.

There are different definitions of love, and one of the most wonderful definitions of love is to allow somebody to be.

I realized the world spins without me having to spin it.

No one loses anyone, because no one owns anyone. That is the true experience of freedom: having the most important thing in the world without owning it

It's a great freedom to give up on love, and get on with everything else.

I let go of all expectations. People, places and things are free to be themselves, and I am free to be me.

A mature person has the integrity to stand alone. And when a mature person gives love, he or she gives without any strings attached to it. When two mature persons are in love, one of the great paradoxes of life happens, one of the most beautiful phenomena: they are together and yet tremendously alone. They are together so much that they are almost one. Two mature persons in love help each other to become more free. There is no politics involved, no diplomacy, no effort to dominate. Only freedom and love.

We need to help people to discover the true meaning of love. Love is generally confused with dependence. Those of us who have grown in true love know that we can love only in proportion to our capacity for independence.

Remember: no attachment should grow, no clinging should grow. They are all against your independence, your freedom, your individuality.

Part of love is letting a person be who they want to be.

Love without attachment is light.

I don't need to control anything. Even with romantic partnerships, I don't need to control anyone.

Healthy love, I always think, is... wanting the person you love to be more of themselves. And I think for a parent that's a challenge, because you have to let a baby spread its wings.

If I find the person that I love, it is because I love them, not because I will be dependent on them.

The heart of a woman will never be found in the arms of a man.

To relinquish the futile effort to control change is one of the strengthening forces of true detachment & thus true love.

Being single is pretty good. It's a nice sense of irresponsibility.

Love is generally confused with dependence; but in point of fact, you can love only in proportion to your capacity for independence.

If you want to liberate someone, love them.Not be in love with them - that's dangerous. If you're in love with your children, you're in their lives all the time. Leave them alone! Let them grow and make some mistakes. Tell them, "You can come home. My arms are here - and my mouth is too." When you really love them, you don't want to possess them. You don't say, "I love you and I want you here with me."

He who is alone is happy. Do good to all, like everyone, but do not love anyone. It is a bondage, and bondage brings only misery. Live alone in your mind - that is happiness. To have nobody to care for and never minding who cares for one is the way to be free.

Give people permission to be who they are and they will love, thank, and respect you forever.

NORA: I must stand on my own two feet if I'm to get to know myself and the world outside. That's why I can't stay here with you any longer.

Perfect love casts out fear. Where there is love there are no demands, no expectations, no dependency. I do not demand that you make me happy; my happiness does not lie in you. If you were to leave me, I will not feel sorry for myself; I enjoy your company immensely, but I do not cling.