Caroline Paul Quotes

If someone had told me years ago that sharing a sense of humour was so vital to partnerships, I could have avoided a lot of sex!

To be honest, relationships with the opposite sex are the most challenging things I've done. You lose your compass, gravity changes, you don't know what's up or down, you're trying to figure it out. You're trying to make everybody happy, including yourself, and it's just... it's humbled me.

So many people move in with somebody and try to hold on to who they were before they were with that person and that's not what the space is about. You have to allow it to become the both of you.

Every relationship you have, you're learning and growing and taking something from that.

Love is a component of many different things - the baggage you bring, the moment, what you need in your life, seeing someone as a portal for understanding everything, and all the intensity that brings. It's not something to count on and act like it's a stable thing.

If you're speaking of love, you really must include the element of uncertainty - and perhaps it's best approached as the art of constant maintenance.

It is only when we no longer compulsively need someone that we can have a real relationship with them.

I hope it's enabling me to deal with another human being who's more important to me than I am.

Every 10 years, I know less about love and relationships. The smarter I get, the less I know.

It takes a lot of experience of life to see why some relationships last and others do not. But we do not have to wait for a crisis to get an idea of the future of a particular relationship. Our behavior in little every incidents tells us a great deal.

Free love never works.

I think I passed up a lot of opportunities for love because I was too interested in identity politics.

It's just like any relationship, the more contained the environment, the more the good stuff appears and the more the bad stuff will reveal itself.

In my mind, marriage is a spiritual partnership and union in which we willingly give and receive love, create and share intimacy, and open ourselves to be available and accessible to another human being in order to heal, learn and grow.

I've been in many relationships in my life and learned a lot from them, good and bad.

It's really hard to grow with another person.

I think you learn more about yourself in the context of a relationship than you can outside of it.

I think when you're in a relationship, either you have something or your partner generally has something that you're having to deal with.

Just because you have chemistry with someone doesn't mean you're naturally going to be the best for each other. You have make choices and prioritize.

It's very different than it use to be. I think everybody has a lot more experience in how to be in a relationship - whether it's a marriage or a significant other or a business or a friend.

It's very difficult to judge relationships from the outside. You never know what happens in intimate moments with two people to know why they really support and love each other.

You give up your narcissism, your egotism. That's how you achieve chemistry.

Relationships in general make people a bit nervous. It's about trust. Do I trust you enough to go there?

The worst thing I could be accused of is that I'm a one-way dude, only out for myself. But the worst thing a woman can do is not to say anything. Especially when you're starting a relationship.

In the past I would self destruct when it came to love - I was immature, throwing myself into things but now times have changed, I want a relationship where you understand the other person.