Ellen DeGeneres Quotes

Seeking approval and people pleasing forces you to alter your actions and speech to no longer reflect what you actually think or feel.

Everyone kept telling me, Just be yourself. Be yourself. I kept thinking, there's got to be more to it than that!

I don't have to carry myself as anybody that I'm not, and people picked up on it.

So many people are concerned with being the perfect 'something.' Whether it's the perfect singer, the perfect sexy girl, or the perfect feminist. I don't want to be the perfect anything.

Life becomes easier when we stop aping people. Which is on all fronts, be it looks, body shape, or anything.

I'm not gonna be someone I'm not, because I don't want them to draft someone who's not me, and then I have to try and fill that role. I'm gonna be me, and hopefully a team falls in love with me.

All over the world, girls are raised to be make themselves likeable, to twist themselves into shapes that suit other people. Please do not twist yourself into shapes to please. Don't do it. If someone likes that version of you, that version of you that is false and holds back, then they actually just like that twisted shape, and not you. And the world is such a gloriously multifaceted, diverse place that there are people in the world who will like you, the real you, as you are.

Whether at work, at home or in public, we have been trained to believe that who we are at the core of our being is often unacceptable. As a result, we work diligently to live up to - and sometimes down to - what others have made us out to be, whether or not it is an accurate reflection of who we are.

Don't change for nobody.

I just want to be myself.

I worked with someone who told me they'd never like me. But for some reason, I just felt like I needed her approval. So I started changing myself to please her. It made me stop being social and friendly. I was so unhappy.

If you have to change something about you to be in a part, I don't think it's easy to do. You should just pick the part where you can just be yourself.

Always be yourself, express yourself, have faith in yourself, do not go out and look for a successful personality and duplicate it.

I see no reason to hide who I am or what I look like.

Lots of us when we're children believe 'oh well, if the world knew us as we really are, they'd know what wonderful, clever, brilliant, charming people we really are.'

If I can't be me and be accepted and loved for that, then what's the point?

I have to fight to keep my image really me... I rejected some gorgeous publicity shots because they just didn't look like me.

I suppose my life has always been about pleasing people, making sure they're all right, doing the right thing. Then, suddenly, you have to face up to what you want and be honest about it.

I just want girls to realize, everybody's born a way for a reason, and you are who you are. You should just be yourself at all times. The only way you're going to get through life, happily, is being yourself.

I hope girls read what I say in interviews - they should just be themselves.

The more I like me, the less I want to pretend to be other people.

Be yourself is about the worst advice you can give to some people.

Life would be so much harder if I had to lie about who I was.

I used to go around looking as frumpy as possible because it was inconceivable you could be attractive as well as be smart. It wasn't until I started being myself, the way I like to turn out to meet people that I started to get any work.

I often feel like a pretender when wearing makeup. The most beautiful features in a woman are her character and her experiences. Why hide that?