Andrew J. Bernstein Quotes

The truth is that stress doesn't come from your boss, your kids, your spouse, traffic jams, health challenges, or other circumstances. It comes from your thoughts about these circumstances.

It's time we learned the truth about stress. It's time we identified the thoughts that actually create our stress and learned to dismantle them one by one.

Remember that stress doesn't come from what's going on in your life. It comes from your thoughts about what's going on in your life.

Yeah, all those things, responsibility, pressure. It's a bit stressful. I try and come to terms with it by not thinking about it.

People don't just get upset. They contribute to their upsetness.

Look closer at the stress in your own life and you can identify that negative emotions are always built on counterfactual statements.

We are not a victim of our emotions or thoughts. We can understand our triggers and use them as tools to help us respond more objectively.

Learn to take responsibility for emotions, and to manage energies, always working within present resources.

Stress is never a given. There are people who get divorced amicably. There are people who pack up and move with no emotional toll. There is no stressor 'out there' in the world. We experience stress - or we don't - depending on what we believe.

There's going to be stress in life, but it's your choice whether to let it affect you or not.

The truth is, I'm not a coper. I hate stress. I might appear calm externally but internally it's all going on.

A lot of people, for example, live an anxious life. They don't realize they have a super-high level of anxiety. So we're gonna work on really writing down how anxious you feel at the moment you wake up. There's nothing wrong with it; the point is you learn to evaluate yourself and regulate yourself.

The less you think counterfactually, the less you experience stress. Stress, in this light, isn't a bad thing. It's simply a warning system telling you that your mind has lost touch with what's real.

I also think stress is related to control. When you're in charge of your life, you tend to not care about losing control of things that don't really matter like traffic jams.

Dealing with chronic anxiety has taught me to better understand the nuances of mental illness and the very individual nature of it.

I'm just not in a place in my life where I worry about something unnecessarily.

First you have to witness that you are stressing out: Oh, my trigger is here. The news is stressing me out or This line is so long. Let yourself feel it. You don't want to spiritually bypass these problems. Give yourself a couple of minutes to sit in the feeling. Acceptance sets you free from the stress of expectation.

Men under stress are fools, and fool themselves.

When we experience stress, the nervous system tries to control things. Part of waking up is discovering what we are beyond that controlling organism.

I'm an emotional person. Sometimes I can't help it.

I've learned to take care of myself. You know, I try to stay conscious of whatever my energy is at all times, really. I mean, I come home from work, and, depending on the day or depending on what was going on, if I needed to adjust, I'd just meditate, or play guitar, or watch some 'Monty Python.'

I've spent a lot of time and money trying to keep my anger in control.

When sadness happens in the middle of work, I separate my personal grief from my train of thought.

You can't tell yourself that your stress is produced in your head and feel better. You still need to learn how to create a change.

Talking to my mental coach definitely helps. I talk to her every week. Yeah, I mean, she's been helping me a lot, too.