Andrew J. Bernstein Quotes

You might think that shifting your thoughts is as easy as setting your mind to it. But stressful thoughts aren't held in place through choice or will power. They're held in place through perceived truth value.

The truth is that stress doesn't come from your boss, your kids, your spouse, traffic jams, health challenges, or other circumstances. It comes from your thoughts about these circumstances.

Remember that stress doesn't come from what's going on in your life. It comes from your thoughts about what's going on in your life.

The less you think counterfactually, the less you experience stress. Stress, in this light, isn't a bad thing. It's simply a warning system telling you that your mind has lost touch with what's real.

If you think negatively, it's hard to get out of tense moments.

It's time we learned the truth about stress. It's time we identified the thoughts that actually create our stress and learned to dismantle them one by one.

Look closer at the stress in your own life and you can identify that negative emotions are always built on counterfactual statements.

You can't tell yourself that your stress is produced in your head and feel better. You still need to learn how to create a change.

What's taking place during stress is actually much simpler than a transaction between stressful life events and you. There aren't two parties involved in stress. There is only one - your own mind.

The truth is that there is no actual stress or anxiety in the world; it's your thoughts that create these false beliefs. You can't package stress, touch it, or see it. There are only people engaged in stressful thinking.

Stress is a byproduct of subconscious beliefs you have about the world. You can't choose not to believe something. You believe it because you think it's true. To eliminate stress, you must learn to challenge these beliefs so that you see them differently.

Every time you feel depressed about something, try to identify a corresponding negative thought you had just prior to and during the depression. Because these thoughts have actually created your bad mood, by learning to restructure them, you can change your mood.

The truth is, I'm not a coper. I hate stress. I might appear calm externally but internally it's all going on.

We've all had stress creep up on us without even noticing it until we lost it on someone who didn't deserve it, and then we realize that we probably should have checked in with ourselves a little earlier.

I also think stress is related to control. When you're in charge of your life, you tend to not care about losing control of things that don't really matter like traffic jams.

I don't allow the stress of the unknown to affect my health, and I listen to my body when it sends me distress signals.

I'm not a big worrier because I just think stress is just not a good thing... it's just like, what's the point?

I don't stay in the constant worried and over-thinking zone.

Always remember that, nine times out of ten, you probably aren’t having a full-on nervous breakdown – you just need a cup of tea and a biscuit. You’d be amazed how easily and repeatedly you can confuse the two. Get a big biscuit tin.

There are a lot of things that I'm allowing myself to be, but it's a conscious effort to experience contentment for me. My brain doesn't do that naturally. I'm very overwhelmed all of the time.

Yeah, all those things, responsibility, pressure. It's a bit stressful. I try and come to terms with it by not thinking about it.

I have a very busy head. I have inside voices that I have learned to contain.

I always say I am a realist, and my mom says, 'No, you just have anxiety.'

We are not a victim of our emotions or thoughts. We can understand our triggers and use them as tools to help us respond more objectively.

I don't put myself under pressure.