Andrew J. Bernstein Quotes

Stress is never a given. There are people who get divorced amicably. There are people who pack up and move with no emotional toll. There is no stressor 'out there' in the world. We experience stress - or we don't - depending on what we believe.

There's going to be stress in life, but it's your choice whether to let it affect you or not.

The quality of my life has changed dramatically - not the events - but the way I handle them and my priorities and my sense of drama.

All pressure is self-inflicted. It's what you make of it or how you let it rub off on you.

I've got a lot better at dropping emotions if something goes wrong, or right.

A clear understanding of negative emotions dismisses them.

I've always been a very passionate, sometimes overly emotional person. Sometimes things affect me more than they should.

We are not a victim of our emotions or thoughts. We can understand our triggers and use them as tools to help us respond more objectively.

I react emotionally to everything!

We cannot control what emotions or circumstances we will experience next, but we can choose how we will respond to them.

Success and failure are emotional and physiological experiences. We need to deal with them in a way that is present and calm.

What's taking place during stress is actually much simpler than a transaction between stressful life events and you. There aren't two parties involved in stress. There is only one - your own mind.

You cannot tailor-make the situations in life but you can tailor-make the attitudes to fit those situations.

Learn to take responsibility for emotions, and to manage energies, always working within present resources.

I'm very sensitive and I'm quite a soft person, and I cry a lot when things upset me.

I try to keep away exterior events that are going to make me do something negative internally to myself.

People who fail to use their emotional intelligence skills are more likely to turn to other, less effective means of managing their mood. They are twice as likely to experience anxiety, depression, substance abuse, and even thoughts of suicide.

Teaching emotional intelligence skills to people with life-threatening illnesses has been shown to reduce the rate of recurrence, shrink recovery times, and lower death rates.

The less you think counterfactually, the less you experience stress. Stress, in this light, isn't a bad thing. It's simply a warning system telling you that your mind has lost touch with what's real.

It's not psychopathology that counts. It's what you do with it.

I call my therapist every other day. It's not a one-stop shop. You have to push away all that negativity in your head. Face it, name it, let it go.

I tend to process emotional stuff very, very slowly.

Adopting the right attitude can convert a negative stress into a positive one.

I learned certain exercises to help me cope, to get myself in tip-top mental shape to deal with auditions and rejection.

There are times when I think, 'Do I have the energy to be upset?' and the answer is 'no.'