Melody Beattie Quotes

Take one day at a time. Allow yourself to change.

You cannot control another human being, and you just have to learn to go with the flow and laugh at yourself, in whatever capacity.

You can't juggle it all 100 percent. You don't have to be perfect. You don't have to do everything.

When you have tough times, and when you learn you can't be perfect in every situation, it's hard to accept, you know, because I still do expect that. But you just have to, because, you know, it's not about the situation. It's how you deal with it. You always have a choice.

Accept what you cannot control.

There is no point in regretting any part of the past. The past can't now be altered, the future has yet to be lived, and consciously to experience every moment of the present is the only way to gain at least the illusion of immortality.

You keep learning how to let go and to live the life that you actually have, as opposed to the life you thought you were going to have.

You have to look at what you have right in front of you, at what it could be, and stop measuring it against what you've lost. I know this to be wise and true, just as I know that pretty much no one can do it.

Healing is a coming to terms with things as they are, rather than struggling to force them to be as they once were, or as we would like them to be, to feel secure or to have what we sometimes think of as our own way.

You don't have to be perfect; you just have to be open.

By letting go of what you thought was going to happen in your life, you can enjoy what is actually happening.

It's a waste of time to think about what I should have done and what I didn't. I really believe in that. That's how I react to the if-onlys of life. To moan and groan about something I shouldn't have done, could have done, might have done...who knows? It is what it is. You got what you got. I live my life one day at a time.

Acceptance is the magic that makes change possible. It is not forever, it is for the present moment

Don't be too quick to draw conclusions from what happens to you; simply let it happen. Otherwise it will be too easy for you to look with blame... at your past, which naturally has a share with everything that now meets you.

Never worry about things That you are unable to change. Change your own way Of looking at truth.

Acceptance means: For now, this is what this situation, this moment, requires me to do, and so I do it willingly.

What would it be like if I could accept life--accept this moment--exactly as it is?

Do not abandon trust when your ego thinks things should be different than they are.

but you can't spend your whole life hoping people will ask you the right questions. you must learn to love and answer the questions they already ask.

Do not strive for things occurring to occur as you wish, but wish the things occurring as they occur, and you will flow well.

I think as I've gotten older, I've learned to look at life and take every day as it comes.

Life is accepting what is and working from that.

Things go wrong all the time; you can't be precious about it.

One of the hard lessons to learn in life is that there are some things you can control and some things you can't. If you want a short recipe for being frustrated and miserable, this is it: focus on things you can't control.

Always Do Your Best. Your best is going to change from moment to moment; it will be different when you are healthy as opposed to sick. Under any circumstance, simply do your best, and you will avoid self-judgment, self-abuse and regret.