Melody Beattie Quotes

Healing is a coming to terms with things as they are, rather than struggling to force them to be as they once were, or as we would like them to be, to feel secure or to have what we sometimes think of as our own way.

Through forgiveness, which essentially means recognizing the insubstantiality of the past and allowing the present moment to be as it is, the miracle of transformation happens not only within but also without.

Accept what you can not change-change that which is unacceptable.

I'm happy with what I'm doing. I try not to focus on how I've changed. I just try to focus on what I'm doing now.

You can't change what happened. Just like you can't change the future by worrying about it. You just have to keep moving.

I don't worry about the things I can't change.

Life is accepting what is and working from that.

Sometimes you have to let your life fall apart and let it come back together on its own and learn to care for yourself in a different way.

I'm learning not to try to block everything.

Do not grieve over any joy that has gone forever, for it will return to you in another form, know that for sure.

You keep learning how to let go and to live the life that you actually have, as opposed to the life you thought you were going to have.

We're never gonna move forward if we can't let go of things, especially things that don't happen to people today.

It's harder to build than destroy. To build is to engage and change. In jazz, we call progressing harmonies changes. Changes are like obstacles on a speed course. They demand your attention and require you to be present. They are coming...they are here..... and then they are gone. It's how life comes. Each moment is a procession from the future into the past and the sweet spot is always the present. Live in that sweet spot. Be present.

We cannot change anything unless we accept it.

Fix your eyes forward on what you can do, not back on what you cannot change.

And let its meaning permeate each day. Whatever comes, This too shall pass away.

Trust in things being as they are is the secret of life. But we don't want to hear that. I can absolutely trust that in the next year my life is going to be changed, different, yet always just the way it is.

No matter what is going on around or within you, everything at some point must change. It's harder to accept when things are great - and a source of strength when change is what you need. Either way, it reminds me to try my best to be fully present in every moment.

Things change when you learn to loosen your grip. I think one way and the future is desperate. I think another way everything is in sight. Trees bend so branches don't have to break. We mend the wounds of our last mistake... I live one way holding onto the fence post. I live another way sliding off into space. Each life is loosely assembled... Birds swim, fish do fly. Proud man begins to cry. Birds swim, fish do fly. Things change, so why can't I?

A butterfly symbolized acceptance of each new phase in life. To keep faith as everything around you changed.

Never worry about things That you are unable to change. Change your own way Of looking at truth.

Most of us live in the past, carrying our hurts, guilts and fears. We have to face the pain we carry, lest we spend the rest of our lives running away from it or letting it run us. But the only place you'll ever meet the real is now-here.

Commit to growing yourself. Do not avoid problems and or complain about problems. Don't let them bother you. In fact, don't even call them problems; refer to them as "challenges" or "situations". Let go of the emotion and drama you create when you don't get what you want. Just stay present and handle one situation at a time with an open mind and an open heart. Trust yourself and in the universe that everything will work out in the end.

When you invoke the agent of change called acceptance, you must accept all that you are, all that you've been, and all that you will be in the future.

I have always wanted to live in the present and never the past.