Vance Havner Quotes

I love people who try to keep the world in control - because the world is inherently not in control.

People seem to be looking for discipline in a topsy-turvy world.

Instead of yelling and spanking, which don't work anyway, I believe in finding creative ways to keep their attention - turning things into a game, for instance. And, when they do something good, positive reinforcement and praise.

I know what hierarchy and discipline mean. Without those, we will never have order and progress.

Beware of letting small faults pass unnoticed under the idea it is a little one. There are no little things in training children; all are important. Little weeds need plucking up as much as any. Leave them alone and they will soon be great.

Re raising kids: Love, without discipline, isn't.

The one thing that kids need is consistency.

No one welcomes chaos, but why crave stability and predictability?

Routine is not organization, any more than paralysis is order.

You know, how much order is good? And when does order become too restrictive? Is a little bit of chaos okay, or is chaos always an evil force? I mean, these are questions that any kid who's ever been in a school cafeteria can relate to.

It's about living in a world with rules, or a world without rules.

Freedom is just Chaos, with better lighting.

Tired mothers find that spanking takes less time than reasoning and penetrates sooner to the seat of the memory.

I like having a routine, because everything else... is so unpredictable.

I always hated to throw a guy out of a game but sometimes it was necessary to keep order.

If it is a first offense, you ground them and have a talk. The second offense would call for counseling.

My journey has always been the balance between chaos and order.

When I was four or five, I would organise my cars and my action figures. I needed some kind of structure, I think.

Tough love - I'm kind of weary of that. I don't think it's so effective.

Order doesn't come by itself.

Why not whip the teacher when the pupil misbehaves?

Indeed - judicious, consistent parenting is a dream of mine. No judgements, learning space and listening carefully are my goals.

We need to understand the difference between discipline and punishment. Punishment is what you do to someone; discipline is what you do for someone.

I would no more admit the rebels to control these States than I would sail a ship with the mutinous part of a crew, and confine those who were faithful to the captain in the hold or put them in irons.

Two things rule the world -- reward and punishment.