Rebecca Stead Quotes

Criticism does not make you smarter or better than the one you are criticizing. In fact, the stuff you are critical of in others is the same stuff you don't like about yourself.

I don't want to get so lost in thinking about me and talking about me all the time in interviews. It's so nice to unwind and just look at other things and get out of yourself. It's hard to detach myself from myself without neglecting myself. You know what I mean? I don't want to get in to the habit of thinking about my career because when it comes down to it, it's not really that important. I could die tomorrow and the world would go on.

Great fiction shows us not how to conduct our behavior but how to feel. Eventually, it may show us how to face our feelings and face our actions and to have new inklings about what they mean. A good novel of any year can initiate us into our own new experience.

When you judge another, you do not define them, you define yourself.

It is easier to act yourself into a new way of feeling than to feel yourself into a new way of acting.

Talking doom and gloom all day no longer fit who I was as a person.

Individuals need to be willing to face truth about their attitudes, behaviors, even what we want out of life.

You can only see in someone else what you see in yourself.

I know who Jack Whittaker is. And some days I don't like who I am.

There's something very touching to me about someone almost communicating to themselves in some way - trying to come to some deeper understanding of yourself and having compassion for yourself.

Like most people, what I find irritating in others are my own faults.

I now see that I never needed to be so mean or cruel.

Whenever I'm trying to understand people that I don't understand, or things in people or even in myself, I'll say, 'When did this negativity get here?' I try to think back to how I was raised to deal with things, and then consider how the person that I'm dealing with grew up.

I think people will discover themselves in 'Ankahee.'

The true cure for self-righteousness is self-knowledge.

You have to break through the structure of your own stonework habit just to make yourself listen.

Failure comes from ego, greed, envy, fear, imitation. I have success not because I am smart, but because I am rational.

We feel the urge to tell the truth as we see it. But we should try to accomplish this without judgemental condemnations that hurt others. Again, when we remember that what we perceive in another is a reflection of ourselves, we become less judgemental. So when we freely express harsh judgement of another, we are in effect talking about those aspects of ourselves that trouble us the most.

Never let us be discouraged with ourselves. It is not when we are conscious of our faults that we are the most wicked; on the contrary, we are less so. We see by a brighter light; and let us remember for our consolation, that we never perceive our sins till we begin to cure them.

In order to love your enemies, you must begin by analyzing self.

Always search for your innermost nature in those you are with, as rose oil imbibes from roses.

Sometimes you never feel meaner than the moment you stop being mean.

It's not our intention to be mean. That's just within us.

It's really about connecting to your own humanity and your own behaviors, and getting to a level of self-awareness so that you can have perspective and step outside of yourself and transform and become another person.