Iyanla Vanzant Quotes

Critisism is just reflection of the person that speaking

When we judge or criticize another person, it says nothing about that person; it merely says something about our own need to be critical.

When you judge another, you do not define them, you define yourself.

Like most people, what I find irritating in others are my own faults.

Judging others blocks me from inner peace

Whenever we discover a dislike in us, toward any one, we should ever be a little suspicious of ourselves.

Whenever I'm trying to understand people that I don't understand, or things in people or even in myself, I'll say, 'When did this negativity get here?' I try to think back to how I was raised to deal with things, and then consider how the person that I'm dealing with grew up.

To begin your commitment to new perceptions, start by paying attention to attack thoughts toward yourself and others.

Wise criticism always begins with self-criticism.

It's so easy to criticize your own time, and I see that as a problem, even for myself, as a listener.

The very purpose of religion is to control yourself, not to criticize others. Rather, we must criticize ourselves. How much am I doing about my anger? About my attachment, about my hatred, about my pride, my jealousy? These are the things which we must check in daily life.

I would prefer a thousand times to receive reproofs than to give them to others.

The problem with fault-findingIs that he who finds fault with othersIs in no way a happy person Even after he has successfully Accomplished his task.

The more time we spend considering the shortcomings of others, the smaller a person we become.

Great fiction shows us not how to conduct our behavior but how to feel. Eventually, it may show us how to face our feelings and face our actions and to have new inklings about what they mean. A good novel of any year can initiate us into our own new experience.

What we dislike in others is often a weakness in our own lives.

What you dislike in another take care to correct in yourself.

I want to take the time to think through how I feel and why I feel. I don't want to feign expertise on matters I know nothing about for the purpose of offering someone else my immediate reaction for their consumption.

I could be less impatient with people. I sometimes judge by impressions.

Self-awareness is not the same thing as self-approval, any more than imagination is the same thing as day-dreaming.

Occupy yourself in beholding and bewailing your own imperfections rather than contemplating the imperfections of others.

I'm very self-critical.

Of all the things I could know, my own faults and weaknesses are pretty much the most important.

I was not used to criticism.