Gary Chapman Quotes

The world is a mirror for us – whatever you say about others is really how you feel about yourself.

Dislike in yourself what you dislike in others.

When we judge or criticize another person, it says nothing about that person; it merely says something about our own need to be critical.

Whenever we discover a dislike in us, toward any one, we should ever be a little suspicious of ourselves.

What is called an acute knowledge of human nature is mostly nothing but the observer's own weaknesses reflected back from others.

The true cure for self-righteousness is self-knowledge.

When the defects of others are perceived with so much clarity, it is because one possesses them oneself.

Nothing shows our weakness more than to be so sharp-sighted at spying other men's faults, and so purblind about our own.

Instead of always asking yourself why so-and-so acts this or that way, learn to ask: "What's inside of me that wants to hurt itself over how anyone else acts?"

It surprises me that more people don't take a look in the mirror a little more often and assess their own relationships.

Of all the things I could know, my own faults and weaknesses are pretty much the most important.

I think I have a better sense of my weaknesses - being self-important, selfish and having a big ego probably triggers all the other stuff. I can see myself more clearly.

When I was in my twenties, I strongly identified with Jane Austen's 'Emma' - her human failings mixed with a desire to do good.

Whenever I'm trying to understand people that I don't understand, or things in people or even in myself, I'll say, 'When did this negativity get here?' I try to think back to how I was raised to deal with things, and then consider how the person that I'm dealing with grew up.

The way a man looks at himself in a mirror will tell you if he can ever care about anyone else.

I trust you to find the good in me, but the bad I must be sure you don't overlook.

My greatest strength is to have a great capacity to confront myself no matter how unpleasant. My greatest weakness is that I don't. I know that's enigmatic, but that's sort of a general formula for anyone, actually.

Only those faults which we encounter in ourselves are insufferable to us in others.

Critisism is just reflection of the person that speaking

The more that we self-analyze ourselves, the nicer we are to people and to ourselves, and the more we understand each other.

Whoever can weep over himself for one hour is greater than the one who is able to teach the whole world; whoever recognizes the depth of his own frailty is greater than the one who sees visions of angels.

Criticism does not make you smarter or better than the one you are criticizing. In fact, the stuff you are critical of in others is the same stuff you don't like about yourself.

I observe myself and I come to know others.

My strengths make me contemptuous. My weaknesses make me charitable.

Open suspecting of others comes of secretly condemning ourselves.