Byron Katie Quotes

I know that you cannot hate other people without hating yourself.

It is only when you're lying to yourself or hating some aspect of yourself that you'll get an emotional charge from someone else's behavior.

If you hate a person, you hate something in him that is part of yourself. What isn't part of ourselves doesn't disturb us.

Being self-critical is good; being self-hating is destructive. There's a very fine line there somewhere, and I walk it carefully.

"Be grateful to everyone" is about making peace with the aspects of ourselves that we have rejected... If we were to make a list of people we don't like - people we find obnoxious, threatening, or worthy of contempt - we would discover much about those aspects of ourselves that we can't face... other people trigger the karma that we haven't worked out.

If you can forgive the person you were, accept the person you are, and believe in the person you will become, you are headed for joy. So celebrate your life.

Your private relationship with yourself is a spring that will feed every other factor.

the important consideration is not your opponents, but yourself. It is bad to scream at them, not because it hurts them, they ought to be hurt, but because it hurts you. Anger is a form of recognition. It amounts to admitting that those people are important to you and that they have the power to hurt you. Actually, they haven't.

You can't hate/love others without loving/hating yourself first.

I feel like the vast majority of the world's problems would disappear if suddenly everyone on the planet were relatively self-aware and capable of honest self-love and compassion.

In the moment when we are able to smile, to look at ourselves with compassion, our world begins to change.

Feeling compassion for ourselves in no way releases us from responsibility for our actions. Rather, it releases us from the self-hatred that prevents us from responding to our life with clarity and balance.

Self-hatred is OK. I have self-hatred, too. It's OK. What's bad is if you don't know how to get out of it, don't know how to manage it. Self-hatred is, in fact, a good thing if you can clearly see the mechanism of it, because it helps you to understand others.

I always feel like I'm so boring, but I don't get bored with me.

I am convinced we do not only love ourselves in others but hate ourselves in others too.

I find that we must be careful not to judge or weigh in on anything other than ourselves. I am living and learning this still!

The greatest gift that you can give yourself is a little bit of your own attention.

People only hate what they see in themselves.

Self-hatred and self-love are equally self-centered.

It seems to me that everyone on this planet whom I know or have worked with is suffering from self-hatred and guilt to one degree or another. The more self-hatred and guilt we have, the less our lives work. The less self-hatred and guilt we have, the better our lives work, on all levels.

You've got to know what your 'thing' is, and you've got to call it a 'thing,' whether it's meanness, nastiness, un-forgiveness, arrogance, ego, resistance, rebelliousness or defiance. Everybody's got a 'thing,' and once you call your 'thing' a 'thing,' we can give it a place to be or dismiss it.

People let their own hang-ups become the obstacles between them and personal happiness.

I have a lot of self-hatred and a lot of self-anger and a lot of things that I need to let go of.

I think I've finally, after 72 years, gotten used to my voice, and it sounds like a friend now instead of an enemy.

However unchristian it may seem, I do not even bear any ill feeling towards myself.