Lisa Kleypas Quotes

I don't like getting people upset, so that's not my goal. But I like putting people in situations where how they respond says a lot about them.

If your opponent is of choleric temper, irritate him.

The best way to create emotional or spiritual distance between me and another person is for them to come up to me and go, 'yaassssss.'

So that's kind of like how I was, even body guarding with guys I was more of a talker and ran my mouth and smiled and stuff and it kept people off, especially if a guy's is fired up and you're laughing at him or smiling or winking at him it just messes with their mind.

We have a family dynamic - more like brothers and sisters than friends. So there can be a bit of competition, but there's also love and respect. But there's a thing to not push each other's buttons. You know what the buttons are, so don't push them.

I believe that one becomes stronger emotionally by taking life less personally. If your employer criticizes your report, don't take it personally. Instead, find out what's needed and fix it. If your girlfriend laughs at your tie, don't take it personally. Find another tie or find another girlfriend.

... to adapt one's outlook to another person's salvation is the surest and quickest way of losing him.

It's this weird thing that I always feel like I have to gauge in myself, like, "Don't come on too strong because you won't get your way."

I like to be nice to people, but sometimes people aren't nice to me.

...Nothing that your partner does is personal. Your partner is dealing with her own garbage. If you don't take it personally, it will be so easy for you to have a wonderful relationship with your partner

You can’t really yell at your boyfriend for stealing your seat and your best friend. You also can’t yell at your best friend for stealing your boyfriend. Or you can…but Hi seemed like a much easier way to start the morning.

Asil left Bran alone with his thoughts then, because if he stayed, Bran would argue with him. This way, Bran would have no one to argue with but himself. And Asil had always credited Bran with the ability to be persuasive.

You would be miserable if you had to go through life with a human doormat with 'Welcome' written on him. You want some one made of sterner stuff. You want, as it were, a sparring-partner, some one with whom you can quarrel happily with the certain knowledge that he will not curl up in a ball for you to kick, but will be there with the return wallop.

I'd address his way of trying to discourage Ian later. After all, he could have come up with something other than saying I was a whiny, smelly, trumpet-snoring bad lay.

In speaking the truth of your experience to another, it will serve you well to realize that how they choose to respond is not your responsibility.

People get annoyed when you try to debug them.

The best way to have the last word is to apologize.

I think anyone who has had a fight and who's a very good observer of the situation and people's behavior is capable of writing a fight. But you do start thinking about writing during the fights that you have with your partner.

You must be vulnerable to be sensitive to reality. And to be vulnerable is just another way of saying that one has nothing more to lose. I don't have anything but darkness to lose.

I'm not making a problem out of a personal question; I make of a personal question an absence of a problem.

The ways suited to confidence are familiar to me, but not those that are suited to familiarity.

In your friendships and in your enmities let your confidence and your hostilities have certain bounds; make not the former dangerous, nor the latter irreconcilable. There are strange vicissitudes in business.

If nobody ever worried about what was in other people's heads, we’d all be 33 percent more effective in our lives and our jobs.

With people too, you constantly think, "If I'm nice to people and treat them well, they'll appreciate it and behave better." They won't, but it's still not a bad way to live.

We all have the same problems in relationships.