Nathan Fielder Quotes

I don't know how you can understand other people or yourself if you haven't read a lot of books. I just don't think you're equipped to deal with the demands and decisions of life, particularly in your dealings with other people.

I've had to relearn how I work with people so that if and when I do avoid different things I don't send any messages in doing so.

Sometimes you get yourselves in situations where you don't realize people are actually testing you. People are actually provoking you.

Whenever I'm trying to understand people that I don't understand, or things in people or even in myself, I'll say, 'When did this negativity get here?' I try to think back to how I was raised to deal with things, and then consider how the person that I'm dealing with grew up.

Sensitivity, awareness, and conflict - these have catalysed my creative growth.

When you plant lettuce, if it does not grow well, you don't blame the lettuce. You look for reasons it is not doing well. It may need fertilizer, or more water, or less sun. You never blame the lettuce. Yet if we have problems with our friends or family, we blame the other person. But if we know how to take care of them, they will grow well, like the lettuce. Blaming has no positive effect at all, nor does trying to persuade using reason and arguments. That is my experience. No blame, no reasoning, no argument, just understanding.

I think it's really important to find out why people hurt you or try to oppose you or whatever.

To know oneself is to study oneself in action with another person.

We're not teaching our students the importance of relationships with other people: how you work with them, what the relational pathology consists of, how you examine your own conscience, how you examine the inner world, how you examine your dreams.

Remember that no relationship is a total waste of time. You can always learn something about yourself.

I don't think any one person is the cause of all of someone else's problems.

So many bad things happen in this world because people don't know how to express things.

I'm sensitive, you know, about some things, and as some of my partners could attest to, incredibly insensitive.

Training to be a therapist teaches you to shut up and listen, and that is certainly useful as a writer.

The way we communicate with others and with ourselves ultimately determines the quality of our lives.

I do ask myself why I make people so enraged, because I only ever say what I think. And while I know it might not be everyone's point of view, that doesn't seem particularly intolerable to me.

When I am talking to someone, I can constantly see whether I am failing or succeeding. I am regulating what I am saying in terms of how I think I'm doing. I'm always searching for the truth of a subject or person, and I look at every meeting as a grand experiment.

If you're upset by something I said, you have bigger problems than you think.

I was forced, more or less, to go to anger management. I was either going to make myself and everyone around me miserable, or I was going to realize that there's more than one person on this Earth. It definitely has made me a better person.

When you grow up with siblings, you can be like, 'Isn't this weird? Isn't this funny? Do we agree on this, or do we disagree?' You have some point of reference, some touchstone. When you grow up an only child, everything is internalized.

I'm at my best when I'm talking about relationships, talking about women, talking about situations and stories.

I'm interested in how we understand ourselves in our relatioships and how we define ourselves.

Experience informs us that the first defence of weak minds is to recriminate.

At the same time I know that it’s not really their fault, at least not completely. I did my part too. I did it on a hundred different days and in a thousand different ways, and I know it. But this makes the anger worse, not better.

You put two egos together and you've either got a conflict, which is always interesting, or better yet, a love affair.