Don Miguel Ruiz Quotes

Don't take anything personally. Even when a situation seems so personal, even if others insult you directly, it has nothing to do with you. Their point of view and opinion come from all the programming they received growing up. When you take things personally, you feel offended and your reaction is to defend your beliefs and create conflict. You make something big out of something so little because you have the need to be right and make everybody else wrong.

It doesn't matter what the other is being, doing, having, saying, wanting, demanding. It doesn't matter what the other is thinking, expecting, planning. It only matters what you are being in relationship to that.

Every relationship you have, you're learning and growing and taking something from that.

Sometimes I wonder which is worse - confrontational people who are afraid of caring or caring people who are afraid of confrontation.

Whatever happens around you, don't take it personally... Nothing other people do is because of you. It is because of themselves.

Don't take anything personally. Nothing others do is because of you.

I don't take anything personally. I am a secondary character in other people's stories. I know that whatever people say about me is just a projection of their image of me. It has nothing to do with me.

Well, a girlfriend once told me never to fight with anybody you don't love.

As novices, we think we're entirely responsible for the way people treat us. I have long since learned that we are responsible only for the way we treat people.

When people disappoint you, it's just as much your responsibility to be aware of it and what you don't want.

People take things too personally - I don't. If someone says something about me, I let it go. But unfortunately, everyone isn't like that. So I'm trying to be more diplomatic - but people always want a headline from me!

If you're offended, it's your problem.

We're quite volatile as individuals, but that doesn't work exponentially when we are together. Relationships are about eating humble pie.

I'm sensitive, you know, about some things, and as some of my partners could attest to, incredibly insensitive.

I'm pretty sensitive. My feelings get hurt a lot easier than people think, but I try take it all with grain of salt. For a relationship, I want someone who is really secure, confident and fulfilled, not tripping with what I do.

I have to be in tune. All the time. I have to be in tune with my husband, where he is, how he's feeling. I have to be in tune with where my family is.

Love must be learned again and again... Hate needs no instruction, but waits only to be provoked.

You can't just switch off your feelings because the other person did.

You put two egos together and you've either got a conflict, which is always interesting, or better yet, a love affair.

It's definitely the biggest lesson - not to take things personally. But it's also the hardest one.

A man must know when to retreat from a woman, but a wise man knows that sometimes he must stand and face her.

When you realize that people treat you according to how they see themselves rather than how you really are, you are less likely to be affected by their behavior.

I am inside someone who hates me. I look out from his eyes.

I don't want to sound like a self-help book, but it really has been transformative for me to take a look at my relationships in a new way and see my part in them. Everybody's going through that.