Melody Carlson Quotes

Nobody could ever say as many terrible things to me as I say to myself.

I had a friend who said, "You don't have an internal critic. You have an internal sadist."

Don't beat yourself. That's the worst kind of defeat you'll ever suffer.

Do not beat up on yourself. Do not criticize your writing as lousy, inadequate, stupid, or any of the evil epithets that you are used to heaping on yourself. Such self-bashing is never useful. If you indulge in it, your writing doesn't stand a chance. So when your mind turns on you, turn it back, stamp it down, shut it up, and keep writing.

Stop shoulding on yourself

I fail enough and I beat myself up enough. I don't need anybody else to do it for me.

Do not nag yourself with a sense of failure

Self-judgment is how conditioned mind keeps control over your life.

I'm crap and a fatty.

You are treating yourself in present time much as you were treated by others in the past. And you punish yourself far more than anyone would ever punish you.

The worst bullies you will ever encounter in your life are your own thoughts.

I think the hardest thing to overcome is judging yourself and being your own worst critic so to speak.

I used to be so hard on myself. So hard on myself. Just my own worst critic to the nth degree. Absolutely undermining my confidence in every moment. Bad tape in my head all the time.

I suffer from low self-esteem. I had horrible self-esteem growing up. You really have to save yourself because the critic within you will eat you up. It's not the outside world - it's your interior life, that critic within you, that you have to silence.

We can be so hard on ourselves. And other people can, too - there's so much criticism out there!

I don't get along much with myself.

It doesn't matter how many people say 'well, everyone makes mistakes Ricky, you've had a great career you should be proud of yourself' but that doesn't mean much compared to what goes on between my ears.

I'm such a self-critic, that I find it hard to give myself credit for something.

No one can bully me better than me. I'm the first person to the party going, 'Don't worry - you don't have to cut me down, 'cause I'm already there.' I struggled with all those voices and gave them so much power, to the point where they took over my life.

Don't believe the things you tell yourself late at night.

No one is going to beat the crap out of me more than me.

No one's busy thinking bad things about you. They're all too busy thinking bad things about themselves.

If I were to search for the central core of difficulty in people as I have come to know them, it is that in the great majority of cases they despise themselves, regarding themselves as worthless and unlovable.

I don't hate myself, as a general rule. I'd say the best way to describe it is that I have moments of self-loathing at fairly regular intervals.

There's good self-consciousness, and then there's toxic, paralyzing, raped-by-psychic-Bedouins self-consciousness.