Tara Brach Quotes

It is easier to overcome people's judgments than to overcome our own self-judgment.

Self-judgment is how conditioned mind keeps control over your life.

You're not going to be perfect, you're not going to stop berating yourself, you're not going to stop the comparisons, you're not going to stop the judgment, but you can become evermore mindful of it, and that has to be good enough.

It took me a long time not to judge myself through someone else's eyes.

Of all the judgments we pass in life, none is more important than the judgment we pass on ourselves.

Comparison is a brutal assault upon one's self. Once you compare yourself to someone else, what you're really saying is that what you're made of isn't good enough.

The biggest obstacle I've had to overcome is loving myself 100%. And that's still a battle. I love myself, but sometimes you can be your own worst enemy. And I think I've been my worst enemy in life, because others haven't been able to do anything to me unless I allowed them to do it.

It is easy to look down on others; to look down on ourselves is the difficulty.

Self-love exaggerates our faults as well as our virtues.

I don't hate myself, as a general rule. I'd say the best way to describe it is that I have moments of self-loathing at fairly regular intervals.

We really damage our own confidence when we put ourselves down, so I try not to.

Self-deprecation is not an answer to keeping one's balance. I think that it's very damaging.

We're all the harshest judges of ourselves.

I feel like I'm quite harsh on myself.

If you read something bad about yourself and it stings you, I've learned that somewhere that's a judgment I'm holding about myself, so I'll try to work through that.

Shut off the internal bashing.

Shame: We all have it. It's that gremlin that says 'I'm not enough.' Or, if you're feeling pretty confident,...'ooh, who do you think you are?' Shame always has a seat.

My great hope for us as young women is to start being kinder to ourselves so that we can be kinder to each other. To stop shaming ourselves and other people for things we don't know the full story on - whether someone is too fat, too skinny, too short, too tall, too loud, too quiet, too anything. There's a sense that we're all ‘too’ something, and we're all not enough.

If you had a person in your life treating you the way you treat yourself, you would have gotten rid of them a long time ago.

Today, decide not to speak negatively about yourself. When you criticize yourself, you are criticizing God’s very own creation.

Any form of measuring yourself by the unkind action of another towards you is like looking into a badly fractured mirror... and then blaming yourself for the shattered image you see therein.

Once you accept you are being judged by people who have less knowledge than yourself, then what's it worth?

Self-rejection is the biggest sin that you can commit.

Do not beat up on yourself. Do not criticize your writing as lousy, inadequate, stupid, or any of the evil epithets that you are used to heaping on yourself. Such self-bashing is never useful. If you indulge in it, your writing doesn't stand a chance. So when your mind turns on you, turn it back, stamp it down, shut it up, and keep writing.

All censure of a man's self is oblique praise. It is in order to show how much he can spare.