Sandra Bernhard Quotes

I mean, I come from a hippie mentality where I just think to know someone, you need to look into their eyes. Eyes are so important. Until they start melon-balling eyes out, I won't be able to get to know someone another way.

Remember, intimacy increases with honesty. Share less to keep people away and more to draw them closer.

...available people are the ones who are dangerous, because they confront us with the possibility of real intimacy.

Look your significant other in the eyes, make that connection.

A thing that you see in my pictures is that I was not afraid to fall in love with these people.

It's all about the director for me; we have to click. It's a trust thing. I'll say I'm ready to let down my walls. I'll cry for you as long as you need. But you're going to have to hug me afterwards.

Acting is also working with people who invite you into their dreams and trust you with their innermost being.

I don't think I always look in people's faces, like, as - I think especially when I'm doing my more intimate songs that are quite personal, I always feel it's a bit accusing if I stare in someone's face when I singing quite a personal lyric.

I'm not good at opening up with people.

I find it really hard to be close to anybody.

In my fiction, I pursue this idea of intimacy, but also - philosophically, politically - I just feel like that's the interesting question for me. How much can we share with other people? I'm not interested in human individuality; I don't even know what that means.

When humans look at each other and look long enough into their eyes, some people are totally uncomfortable with that. I am not.

When people approach me, it's a vulnerable moment for everybody. You can see that sometimes people don't quite know what to say to you, but they want to come up to you, and you can tell they're nervous, and it's really humbling and endearing.

Honesty and vulnerability endear us to people; they don't endanger us in our relationship.

Something about telling that story made my gut grow back together." What?" Oh, nothing. Just thinking out loud." That's who you really like. The people you can think out loud in front of." The people who've been in your secret hiding places." The people you bite your thumb in front of." Hi." Hi." ..." ..." Wow. My first Lindsey." My second Colin." That was fun. Let's try it again." Sold." ..." ..." ...".

Telephone companies sell us voice plans because they know we're not going to use them. We're hiding from each other. People say that calls aren't efficient, but trying to bring efficiency into your intimacy can get you into a lot of trouble.

You need to keep people close. You need to give them access to your heart.

When my eyes meet his gaze as we're sitting here staring at each other, time stops. Those eyes are piercing mine, and I can swear at this moment he senses the real me. The one without the attitude, without the facade[...]

It's hard for me to pry with people I know.

I love being free enough that I can be so intimate with people, and that people are free enough that we can all be intimate with each other!

Just looking at each other is something really moving to me, more so than the nudity.

I had a very easy time loving an audience. But when it's one-on-one with somebody, all I wanted to do was run away, because maybe they're going to want something from me I can't give, or they're going to hurt me.

I feel vulnerable sometimes - when I see an emotional scene, for example - and I remember what it took to get to that place, and I fear sometimes that everybody else can see that. You bare a part of you that makes you uncomfortable. I freely give it, I know, but I feel like people know something about me that I wouldn't otherwise give freely to a stranger.

I don't like sleeping with people I really love. I don't want to sleep with them because sex cannot last, but affection can last forever.

Connection and love: We all want it. Most people settle for connection because love's too scary.