Martha Beck Quotes

Through my research, I found that vulnerability is the glue that holds relationships together. It's the magic sauce.

Honesty and vulnerability endear us to people; they don't endanger us in our relationship.

You need to keep people close. You need to give them access to your heart.

Intimacy, as I am using it, is sharing my reality with you.

In a relationship you have to open yourself up.

Luckily, my wife is amazing. She's one of the few people in my life I'm completely honest with. I've told her everything about my past. She knows me inside and out. There's no secrets at all.

Intimacy is healing.

When trust works out right, it can be absolutely magical.

I'm not gonna say something unless I really feel comfortable around you. Unless I feel like I know you, I'm not gonna really open up.

Honesty is the only way with anyone, when you'll be so close as to be living inside each other's skins.

True intimacy, the exchange of affection between two people who are not lying, is transforming.

How easy it must be when you had no secrets from the person you lived with." - Eclipse, page 208

We don't take the time to be vulnerable with each other

Look your significant other in the eyes, make that connection.

Fear is the great enemy of intimacy. Fear makes us run away from each other or cling to each other but does not create true intimacy.

Intimacy is not a happy medium. It is a way of being in which the tension between distance and closeness is dissolved and a new horizon appears. Intimacy is beyond fear.

There's not as many people as one would think you can be completely open with.

A thing that you see in my pictures is that I was not afraid to fall in love with these people.

If fear is the great enemy of intimacy, love is its true friend.

That's one of the great lies of intimacy, to pretend you know everything - you cannot. No matter how close you've been, over however many years, there remain secrets. I think we all know that - that you don't tell everybody everything.

Trust is the glue of life. It's the most essential ingredient in effective communication. It's the foundational principle that holds all relationships.

It's not like you can wake up and realize, 'Oh, I want intimacy,' and then it happens that day.

Intimacy is something to be cherished, and intimacy is not something to be afraid of.

It takes people a while to trust you.

Relationships in general make people a bit nervous. It's about trust. Do I trust you enough to go there?