Lisa Kleypas Quotes

Fear is the great enemy of intimacy. Fear makes us run away from each other or cling to each other but does not create true intimacy.

I think invariably when you are dealing with relationships, the films really center on that, and the plot is really born out of that. That's the most core part of a relationship: intimacy, I think, whether it's expressed or not.

Through my research, I found that vulnerability is the glue that holds relationships together. It's the magic sauce.

Sex isn't hard, but intimacy is terrifying.

Sometimes, when you act with someone in an intimate capacity, you have to ask vulnerable questions to speed up intimacy - but that's artificial.

The more you think that you are watching a show about sex, the more you ultimately are watching a show about the challenges of just connecting with human beings and being intimate.

Something about telling that story made my gut grow back together." What?" Oh, nothing. Just thinking out loud." That's who you really like. The people you can think out loud in front of." The people who've been in your secret hiding places." The people you bite your thumb in front of." Hi." Hi." ..." ..." Wow. My first Lindsey." My second Colin." That was fun. Let's try it again." Sold." ..." ..." ...".

Honesty is the only way with anyone, when you'll be so close as to be living inside each other's skins.

It's important for a guy to know and understand me before he can even think about taking things to the next step.

Love is an attempt at penetrating another being, but it can only succeed if the surrender is mutual.

Intimacy is not a happy medium. It is a way of being in which the tension between distance and closeness is dissolved and a new horizon appears. Intimacy is beyond fear.

In a relationship when things are really great you don't need to say anything and just enjoy the other person. Sometimes with a couple, it gets dark and you don't know what to say and that silence can last all day. Other times you don't want to stop talking because you don't want to lose one another.

I'll date one day if I find someone that I want to let into my life enough.

If someone had told me years ago that sharing a sense of humour was so vital to partnerships, I could have avoided a lot of sex!

If fear is the great enemy of intimacy, love is its true friend.

In a relationship you have to open yourself up.

People who find that they have a lot of drama in their relationships need to allow themselves to get 'bored'. At first, it will feel excruciating, and they may find themselves confronting a very real fear underneath all that drama: being truly close and therefore vulnerable to another human being.

It's not like you can wake up and realize, 'Oh, I want intimacy,' and then it happens that day.

There is an instinct that emerges when we get quiet with people. We know who's close.

Interestingly, the best way to promote intimacy is to demand it.

I think chemistry is just about two people being comfortable with one another.

My relationship with Nayan is too personal to talk about. I am not comfortable sharing it.

I'm not gonna say something unless I really feel comfortable around you. Unless I feel like I know you, I'm not gonna really open up.

Do you remember that old TV series, Get Smart? Do you remember at the beginning where Maxwell Smart is walking down the secret corridor and there are all of those doors that open sideways, and upside down and gateways and stuff? I think that everyone keeps a whole bunch of doors just like this between themselves and the world. But when you're in love, all of your doors are open, and all of their doors are open. And you roller-skate down your halls together.

The key to intimacy is the commitment to honesty and to the radical forgiveness necessary in order for honesty to be safe.