Ian Caldwell Quotes

They say there is a doorway from heart to heart, but what is the use of a door when there are no walls?

How easy it must be when you had no secrets from the person you lived with." - Eclipse, page 208

Intimacy, as I am using it, is sharing my reality with you.

Through my research, I found that vulnerability is the glue that holds relationships together. It's the magic sauce.

Communication is so much better when people are vulnerable.

With my fan base, I'm just vulnerable. I'm very transparent and vulnerable.

Honesty and vulnerability endear us to people; they don't endanger us in our relationship.

Never close your lips to those whom you have already opened your heart.

Honesty is the only way with anyone, when you'll be so close as to be living inside each other's skins.

A friend is a person with whom I may be sincere. Before him I may think aloud.

Fear is the great enemy of intimacy. Fear makes us run away from each other or cling to each other but does not create true intimacy.

Intimacy is not a happy medium. It is a way of being in which the tension between distance and closeness is dissolved and a new horizon appears. Intimacy is beyond fear.

There's not as many people as one would think you can be completely open with.

If fear is the great enemy of intimacy, love is its true friend.

In a relationship you have to open yourself up.

That's one of the great lies of intimacy, to pretend you know everything - you cannot. No matter how close you've been, over however many years, there remain secrets. I think we all know that - that you don't tell everybody everything.

What is a friend? I will tell you... it is someone with whom you dare to be yourself.

Some of the writers I admire who seem very, very funny and very emotional to me can develop a closeness with the reader without giving too much of themselves away. Lorrie Moore comes to mind, as does David Sedaris. When they write, the reader thinks that they're being trusted as a friend.

I don't know any of us who are in relationships that are totally honest - it doesn't exist.

My best advice would be that you have to be vulnerable with each other. Like, everyone says you have to be honest, you have to communicate; like, yes, of course, but you gotta be willing to be vulnerable.

When you are honest and open with young people, they let you in.

I think Raymond is very honest about human relationships.

I think you become more relatable when you're vulnerable.

Luckily, my wife is amazing. She's one of the few people in my life I'm completely honest with. I've told her everything about my past. She knows me inside and out. There's no secrets at all.

Relationships in general make people a bit nervous. It's about trust. Do I trust you enough to go there?