Dan Barker Quotes

Do not cherish suffering. Don't act like a fool. Don't think that your suffering is going to accelerate your spiritual progress.

It's so important to embrace what you have because if you don't, that can be the root of very self-destructive habits, which I think people waste a lot of energy on.

Learn to accept your limits and you'll become a happier person.

It is not worth the while to let our imperfections disturb us always. The conscience really does not, and ought not to monopolizethe whole of our lives, any more than the heart or the head. It is as liable to disease as any other part.

Trust Me. Life is not worth living feeling sad and down and lonely. Always be true to who you are.

Your private relationship with yourself is a spring that will feed every other factor.

Do nothing in a depressed mood, nor as one afflicted, nor as thinking that you are in misery, for no one compels you to that.

That I ever think for one minute that I should ever feel lonely is obscene and unreasonable.

All the monsters in your mind just want to be nice. They want to be kind. They want to play nice. They want to be softer than the storms around. You feel them through the windows and the doors.

I have no control over what people think, and if I were to spend energy on that, I would be a lifeless, deadened human being.

You have to accept who you are in order to make someone happy and be happy.

You simply have to accept that your demons are a part of you.

The biggest lesson I’ve learned is, “It’s okay.” It’s okay for me to be kind to myself. It’s okay to be wrong. It’s okay to get mad. It’s ok to be flawed. It’s okay to be happy. It’s okay to move on.

Be kind to yourself so you can be happy enough to be kind to the world.

When we think good thoughts and choose the actions that make us feel good, Life provides us with all the evidence we need that we are loved and cared for.

It's okay not to be okay

I detest 'love lyrics.' I think one of the causes of bad mental health in the United States is that people have been raised on 'love lyrics.

You can't force other people to like you and you just kind of have to ride the wave. I think I could have saved myself a lot of sleepless nights with that advice.

I think having pointers and having guidance from mentors is very important, but it never actually embodies what you go through. And if something doesn't feel good, why do you repeat it? If you feel good bemoaning an audition for a week, go for it. But if you feel better bemoaning an audition that didn't go very well for 30 minutes because you believe in the craft and the process, then I suggest you do that. And that's what I suggest to myself. The alternative is way too painful and destructive.

Radical self-care is what we've been longing for, desperate for, our entire lives-friendship with our own hearts.

Healing is a small and ordinary and very burnt thing. And it's one thing and one thing only: it's doing what you have to do.

When you feel WHOLE, things come to enhance your WHOLEness. When you feel broken, things come to enhance your brokenness. That's why you CANNOT FILL A VOID. That's why the premise from which you attract your relationship is so important.

All it takes is a simple choice, a simple decision: no matter what happens, I will create no more pain for myself. I will create no more problems.

I think it's important for people to know that it's okay to feel like you're not better as long as you keep trying.