Establishing Boundaries Quotes

To define is to limit.

I respect my boundaries, and I insist that others respect them, too.

Getting a room's not always enough. Sometimes you gotta close the door.

Sometimes you got to put somebody in their place, let them know that you mean business and you're a grown ass man.

The real intimidating stuff is the scene where you show up for the first day. You kind of square off, and that is where you look each other in the eye.

The beginning of an acquaintance whether with persons or things is to get a definite outline of our ignorance.

If you give way, you will instantly have to meet some greater demand, as having been frightened into obedience in the first instance; while a firm refusal will make them clearly understand that they must treat you more as equals.

It's essential for a president to show strength from the very beginning, to make it very clear what is acceptable and not acceptable.

Going to college made me realize you have to have real spaces of privacy, and you have to establish those early.

It's like everyone wants to categorize you as this and that until you've made your own mark.

People tend to keep their distance.

If you don't set the tone for the day, the devil will set it for you.

As soon as rules were made, names were given. There are already many names. One must know when it is enough.

I think the most important thing is to always be involved in every aspect of their life. To give them enough trust that they can share things with you. I don't want them to be terrified of me, you know? But I don't want them to think they can do whatever they want and get away with it, either, because they can't.

We need to have a talk on the subject of what's yours and what's mine.

Quality relationships are built on principles, especially the principle of trust.

You can't break the rules until you know how to play the game.

One of the hardest obstacles I've had to overcome in my life was not understanding how to draw healthy boundaries. I finally learned it's perfectly OK to say no.

I was 28, and my mom was living with me. I had to decide. You have to claim it; you can't ask permission. After a gig in Singapore, she went home, I went to New York on my own, I packed her stuff in boxes and sent it home. I don't think she liked me for a while for doing that. It was something I needed to do to carve out my own space.

I felt like high school for me was like a big whirlpool of me trying to figure out what was OK for me to do.

I'll never be known for my work with boundaries.

When trying to teach someone a boundary, they learn less from the enforcement of the boundary and more from the way the boundary was established.

Leadership is like parenting.

There's a sort of sibling moratorium when you're establishing yourself as an adult. So much of your energy has to be focused on other things like work and kids. But when people become more settled, siblings tend to regroup because now you're building a new extended family.

I realize that when I moved out of my father's house I shocked and frightened him because I needed a room of my own, a space of my own to reinvent myself.