Iyanla Vanzant Quotes

I think I have a better sense of my weaknesses - being self-important, selfish and having a big ego probably triggers all the other stuff. I can see myself more clearly.

Being self-critical is good; being self-hating is destructive. There's a very fine line there somewhere, and I walk it carefully.

People let their own hang-ups become the obstacles between them and personal happiness.

I find it takes a lot of strength to endure myself.

Complaining is one of the ego's favorite strategies for strengthening itself.

Believe in yourself and try not to take anything personally.

I was not fighting myself at all as I used to.

It is easy enough to praise men for the courage of their convictions. I wish I could teach the sad young of this mealy generation the courage of their confusions.

I'm hard on myself, so I'm working on shifting perspective toward self-acceptance, with all my flaws and weaknesses.

There must have been something in my nature - I believe, with all my heart, that I have conquered it now - which prevented me from being perfectly happy or making a woman perfectly happy.

I'm under no illusion that there are things about me that I'd like to change. I just accept who I am, and I'm proud of it.

When you love and accept yourself, when you know who really cares about you, and when you learn from your mistakes, then you stop caring about what people who don't know you think.

I'm selfish, impatient, and a little insecure. I make mistakes, I'm out of control, and at times hard to handle. But if you can't handle me at my worst, then you sure as hell don't deserve me at my best.

I always feel like I'm so boring, but I don't get bored with me.

I find that we must be careful not to judge or weigh in on anything other than ourselves. I am living and learning this still!

I had to let my ego go a long time ago.

When you locate good in yourself, approve of it with determination. When you locate evil in yourself, despise it as something detestable.

Self-hatred and self-love are equally self-centered.

It's a very hard thing for all of us to accept ourselves at all the different stages - the horrible side, the wonderful side, the adorable side - and who you are as a grownup. And then to bring what you learned as a child to that grownup: that is the magic of creativity.

You are precisely as big as what you love and precisely as small as what you allow to annoy you.

A wonderful thing happens over time. You fall in love with the sound of your own voice.

I always call myself a recovering narcissist. I lived my life thinking everything was about me.

I think you're always attracted by characters that are a little bit like you, or at least the worst parts of you that you can finally accept and say, 'All right, at least I know that now!'

I don't want to sound self-righteous, and I don't want to act like I have it all put together.

Subconsciously - I didn't know it then, I realize it today when I know a little bit more about the mind and the brain - I fought like I didn't deserve to live.