Iyanla Vanzant Quotes

Forgiveness leads to a shift in perception. It transforms the hurt into healing.

Getting past my past... was a process, a very serious process indeed.

Someday she will be saved, and the past and all its pain will be rendered as smoothly palatable as the food we spoon to our babies.

Don't let what you have to heal from blind you to how much there is to heal for.

When you come from so many damaged places you don't ever want to spiral back there, so you gotta continue to check yourself.

I believe everything negative that happens in your life is for a positive reason. If your heart breaks, you know that you are a human being and it happens. But you can't mope over it. There's only one life. You better get on ahead and fast. Fast enough not to let your past ever catch up with you.

I feel like I've put my demons behind me.

Experiences don't make us damaged goods; it's what we do with those experiences that matters.

Accept what you cannot control.

Have you recently been through a challenge, disappointment, break up or disloyalty with somebody in your life? If so, it's important after you've been hurt, to take some time to think like a lion tamer about your pain, so you can tame the possibility of more negativity coming back to bite you again!

For me, the healing process starts with graciousness and forgiveness.

It took me a while to learn the true meaning of patience and surrender, but I have finally accepted that healing doesn't happen on our schedule. It doesn't have a clock or a calendar.

I'm grounded in joy; I'm not grounded in the trauma anymore.

The trick is to realize that after giving your best, there's nothing more to give.

You can accept or reject the way you are treated by other people, but until you heal the wounds of your past, you will continue to bleed. You can bandage the bleeding with food, with alcohol, with drugs, with work, with cigarettes, with sex, but eventually, it will all ooze through and stain your life. You must find the strength to open the wounds, stick your hands inside, pull out the core of the pain that is holding you in your past, the memories, and make peace with them.

True forgiveness is when you can say, "Thank you for that experience.

You make PEACE with your past by owning your PIECE of the past.

Forgiveness means accepting what is or what has been and becoming willing to see it differently. You cannot un-hear what you have heard or un-see what you have seen. What you can do is stop believing that what occurred has somehow left you broken, damaged and wounded. While forgiveness ain’t easy, it’s the most important inner work you can do within your mind and heart.

Yes I was burned but I called it a lesson learned. Mistake overturned so I call it a lesson learned. My soul has returned so I call it a lesson learned...another lesson learned

In order to move on, you must understand why you felt what you did and why you no longer need to feel it.

You must find the strength to open the wounds, stick your hands inside, pull out the core of the pain that is holding you in your past, the memories, and make peace with them.

Rebuilding us. Isn't that what the spirit requires, when we climb over the wreckage of our lives, sometimes, we go on to make our lives our own affirmation? We are perfect expressions of perfect Love, here and now. There is no permanent injury.

We cannot change past events, no matter how painful, but we can always intend how we 'feel' about them and heal ourselves.

Getting over a painful experience is much like crossing monkey bars. You have to let go at some point in order to move forward.

God, grant me strength to accept those things I cannot change.