Iyanla Vanzant Quotes

Forgiving someone does not mean you condone their behavior. The act of forgiveness takes place in your own mind. It really has nothing to do with the other person. The reality of true forgiveness lies in setting ourselves free from holding on to the pain. It is simply an act of releasing yourself from the negative energy.

Forgiveness leads to a shift in perception. It transforms the hurt into healing.

Forgive everybody for everything. Just forgive and start - most of us can't start with ourselves. We have to forgive the people we think did things to us. So that's fine. Start there - wherever. Start with the dog who peed on the rug. I don't care where you start, just do it.

I think forgiveness is probably one of the greatest forms of self-love there is because you don't do forgiveness for anybody else. My captors will never care if I forgive them... It will not make a day of difference to them at all, but it will make a huge difference to me.

So the best thing is to really work on yourself and opening your own heart and just letting all that stuff [worrying] go. And it is possible. It's sometimes takes a lot of time; it's not easy. And a lot of sitting with yourself and trying to work with your own heart.

Forgiveness will not be possible until compassion is born in your heart.

Forgiveness is a CHOICE, not a feeling.

There is no use in talking as if forgiveness were easy. For we find that the work of forgiveness has to be done over and over again.

I guess forgiveness, like happiness, isn’t a final destination. You don’t one day get there and get to stay.

forgiveness is not a single act, but a matter of constant practice

Forgetting is something that time takes care of, but forgiveness is an act of volition, and only the sufferer is qualified to make the decision.

Weigh the true advantages of forgiveness and resentment to the heart. Then choose.

Forgiveness is not to give the other person peace. Forgiveness is for you. Take that opportunity.

As far as having peace within myself, the one way I can do that is forgiving the people who have done wrong to me. It causes more stress to build up anger. Peace is more productive.

Forgiveness is a gift you give yourself.

Have you recently been through a challenge, disappointment, break up or disloyalty with somebody in your life? If so, it's important after you've been hurt, to take some time to think like a lion tamer about your pain, so you can tame the possibility of more negativity coming back to bite you again!

The door to my heart opens inward. I move through forgiveness to love.

Forgive yourself and forgive others around you.

Forgiveness is a scalpel that removes emotional scars.

You don't have to move on to let go.

True forgiveness is when you can say, "Thank you for that experience.

Forgiveness doesn't sit there like a pretty boy in a bar. Forgiveness is the old fat guy you have to haul up a hill.

Forgiveness doesn't excuse their actions. Forgiveness stops their actions from destroying your heart.

Through forgiveness, which essentially means recognizing the insubstantiality of the past and allowing the present moment to be as it is, the miracle of transformation happens not only within but also without.

People spend thousands in therapy digging and digging in the past. When you dig and dig, you find relics. Try to forgive yourself and get back on that ride.