Iyanla Vanzant Quotes

You must find the strength to open the wounds, stick your hands inside, pull out the core of the pain that is holding you in your past, the memories, and make peace with them.

We cannot change past events, no matter how painful, but we can always intend how we 'feel' about them and heal ourselves.

Someday she will be saved, and the past and all its pain will be rendered as smoothly palatable as the food we spoon to our babies.

When you come from so many damaged places you don't ever want to spiral back there, so you gotta continue to check yourself.

People who have been through trauma, their souls are hurting.

Scars are memory. Like sutures. They stitch the past to me.

You think you're being broken but you're really being broken open...and that's where the healing happens, in those broken places...if you'll allow it.

The damage was permanent; there would always be scars. But even the angriest scars faded over time until it was difficult to see them written on the skin at all, and the only thing that remained was the memory of how painful it had been.

To heal our wounds, we need courage to face them.

One day at a time. You rise, you eat, you bathe, and you talk to the few people you can tolerate while feeling so wretched. Over time, it hurts a little less. Then a little less. And so on...Until one morning, you will awake and realize the pain is only a memory. It will always be with you, but it will eventually lack the power to cripple you.

If you don't make peace with your past it will keep showing up in your present.

You can't heal what you don't acknowledge.

For people like me, who have blocked out a chunk of their past, you wonder - if you open that door, if you walk into that room of your memories, what will happen? Will it destroy you or will it make you stronger?

I have spent much of my adult life flinching with pain as I tried to pull out the threads that bound the shadows of my past to me.

Of course I get hurt.

Emotional hurt, you gotta let that go. Walk away and let it be. So many highs and lows, but if you keep being down, you'll never get up.

Real pain hurts so bad. When you've gone through something and you've overcome it, you're able to heal other people.

Of course! It takes a lot of strength to mend a broken heart. Channelising energies into your work helps, but also to be able to accept situations for what they are instead of questioning them helps immensely.

Self-compassion is how we recover.

You've got to express yourself in life, and it's better out than in. What you reveal, you heal.

I try to dig deep into my soul to figure out something positive in the pain. I think I go to certain places when I play to heal.

I feel like I've put my demons behind me.

You're as sick as your secrets, and my whole life was a secret, so it's just... it's been really healing, and I've found a lot of inner peace by just owning everything and moving forward from there.

It's been my experience with damaged people: they don't wake up every day and wallow in the bad things that have happened to them.

Have you recently been through a challenge, disappointment, break up or disloyalty with somebody in your life? If so, it's important after you've been hurt, to take some time to think like a lion tamer about your pain, so you can tame the possibility of more negativity coming back to bite you again!