Iyanla Vanzant Quotes

You don't need to ever justify the way you feel.

One can never ask anyone to change a feeling.

I hate this idea that you have to love somebody because they are your family. Nobody can tell me what I'm supposed to feel and who I am supposed to feel it for.

I want to express myself to feel that what I feel is real. My joy, my pain, my anger.

There's nobody on this earth who can tell you that what you're feeling is wrong. They can tell you it's different to what they're feeling.

No one can make you feel anything you don't already feel.

Your feelings are validated by the fact that you're feeling them.

I'm claiming the right to be unhappy.

Cherish your own emotions and never undervalue them.

You have a right to your feelings. Your feelings are there to tell you something, but they are not infallible guides to behavior.

It is in books, poems, paintings which often give us the confidence to take seriously feelings in ourselves that we might otherwise never have thought to acknowledge.

Many times people come to me to be reassured. They ask, they say, 'I'm feeling very happy and blissful. What do you say?' What is the need to say anything? The very need shows that the happiness is unreal and imaginary.

The feelings of another person should never be imposed upon us as a law.

To understand my feelings — and my conception of the role of Secretary General — the nature of my religious and cultural background must first be understood. I should therefore like to outline not only my beliefs but also my conception of human institutions and of the human situation itself.

Today I don't have to fit into anyone else's emotional atmosphere.

If you have a body, you are entitled to the full range of feelings. It comes with the package.

In love, no one can harm anyone else; we are each responsible for our own feelings and cannot blame someone else for what we feel.

You never need to defend yourself or your desires to anyone, as those inner feelings are Spirit speaking to you. Those thoughts are sacred, so don't ever let anyone trample on them.

It sometimes happens that what you feel is not returned for one reason or another-but that does not make your feeling less valuable and good.

No one can tell you what your heart should feel.

You reach a point in life where you realize that you might as well do what you need to do, because your being loved or not being loved is really a function of the people you encounter and not of yourself. That is an immensely liberating insight.

Kids have moved from, "I have a feeling, I want to make a call," to "I'd like to have a feeling, I need to send a text." In other words, there's a continual need for validation. They're constituting a thought or feeling by sending it out for votes. That's really not where you want to be emotionally.

It's not your job to like me - it's mine

Since I'm not a second Marx or Freud who can offer people alternatives, I have to let them keep their own wrong feelings. And I don't believe that melodramatic feelings are laughable-they should be taken absolutely seriously.

The only possible basis for a sound morality is mutual tolerance and respect: tolerance of one another’s customs and opinions; respect for one another’s rights and feelings; awareness of one another’s needs.