Martha Grimes Quotes

A terrific sadness swept over Jerry. As if somebody had died. The way he felt standing in the cemetry that day they buried his mother. And nothing you could do about it.

Bereavement is a universal and integral part of our experience of love.

It's always difficult when someone close to you passes away. But it's really tough when they're on top of you.

When someone close to you dies, move seats.

Obviously, at this age, I've lost people in my life. But with a parent, it's just different. I was very attached to my father and had this naive little-girl notion that he'd always be around. So I'm finding acceptance of my father's death is the hardest thing to accept.

It's hard to make progress with grief.

Never does one feel oneself so utterly helpless as in trying to speak comfort for great bereavement.

I have to say that since my mother died, I am not the same person anymore. My life has changed a great deal because it's really unbearable to think you can't see her anymore or talk to her anymore.

The hardest obstacle I've ever had to overcome in my life is losing my mom four years ago. I wouldn't even say that I've overcome it, really. I don't imagine that I ever will.

[after the death of a loved one] It is when there is nothing more to be done that the reality of the loss often hits with full force.

I hate funerals. They aren't for the guy who's dead. They're for the guys who are left alive and enjoy mourning.

Never does one feel oneself so utterly helpless as in trying to speak comfort for great bereavement. I will not try it. Time is the only comforter for the loss of a mother.

We're all, whether we like it or not, gonna have to deal with bereavement at some point in our lives, and it's something I think, as a society, maybe we shy away from.

I lost three cousins and a best friend, and they all came at the wrong time. Everyone told me to be strong and that they were in a better place. But I didn't want to hear that. They were gone and I will never see them again.

I know when my parents passed away, I wanted all the support I could get.

My mum died when I was 14. That is a kind of strange age to lose a mother. John lost his mum when he was 17.

Grief, when it comes, is nothing like we expect it to be.

Losing a wife can be very hard. In my case, it was almost impossible.

I was horrified. Absolutely heart sick. All I could think of was that after 23 years together, I'd lost my faithful ally. I couldn't sleep, couldn't get the loss out of my mind. It was like discovering that someone in my family had died.

I’ve lost someone, too. And there were no rules for how to deal with the death of someone you loved. You had to accept that the loss would always stay with you, like a reminder note pinned to the inside of your jacket. But there were still opportunities for happiness. Even joy.

How could you go about choosing something that would hold the half of your heart you had to bury?

When a person you love dies, it doesn’t feel real. It’s like it’s happening to someone else. It’s someone else’s life. I’ve never been good with the abstract. What does it mean when someone is really truly gone?

Death was a big part of my life growing up. I went to lots of funerals.

Graves are for the living, not the dead. It gives us something to concentrate on instead of the fact that our loved one is rotting under the ground.

There's a fine edge to new grief, it severs nerves, disconnects reality--there's mercy in a sharp blade. Only with time, as the edge wears, does the real ache begin.