Melody Beattie Quotes

It’s never overreacting to ask for what you want and need.

I'm not immune to a lack of confidence or the recognition that I haven't asked for what I deserve or stated what I want.

It's become easier to speak up for myself.

[On how she goes about trying to live authentically] Well really listening to my point of view and if I am on a set, say, that doesn't really value a woman's point of view, regardless of how they feel, continuing to give my point of view and try to find a way to be heard and not diminishing myself because other people are diminishing me. Because that, I think, is the worst temptation that, you know, you judge yourself by how others are judging you, and to fall into that trap is to walk into the realm of self-annihilation.

There's a lot of power in the word 'no,' and a lot of people, like myself, need to know that.

You almost have to step outside yourself and look at you as if you were someone else you really care about and really want to protect. Would you let someone take advantage of that person? Would you let someone use that person you really care about? Or would you speak up for them? If it was someone else you care about, you'd say something. I know you would. Okay, now put yourself back in that body. That person is you. Stand up and tell 'em, "Enough!

Never compromise and sell yourself short.

If you believe in your value, how could it possibly be appropriate to hide it from people who need it?

Cats seem to go on the principle that it never does any harm to ask for what you want.

It took me almost wanting to retire to realize that you need to ask for what you need. Everybody needs something different, but whatever it is you need, you need to ask for it and figure out how to get it.

You just have to be able to stand up for yourself. And that's OK.

One of the biggest lessons that we hope to model for several folks, including some of the young women of color who come to me, is the value of understanding your worth, standing up, and demanding the best for yourself and not taking less.

Don?t back down just to keep the peace. Standing up for your beliefs builds self-confidence and self-esteem.

Power comes from who you are, not what you have, and the transformation starts with how you allow others to treat you.

Men will treat you the way you let them. There is no such thing as 'deserving' respect; you get what you demand from people.

Don't accept less than what it is that you know that you want. Don't allow someone to be a jerk. Don't allow someone to disrespect you. Listen to the bigger voice in your head telling you that you deserve the best, whatever that is whatever that is you decide you like for yourself. It may differ from what I like or what is ideal for me. But the bottom line is to never accept less than what you know you deserve.

Discard the protective rags of that vice which you called a virtue: humility. Learn to value yourself, which means: to FIGHT for your happiness, and when you learn that pride is the sum of all virtues, you will learn to live like a man.

I've learned the importance of speaking up for myself and voicing my opinions and my ideas. I'm definitely a shy person.

Never be bullied into silence.

We need to get women to the point where they aren't apologizing. Its time to take ownership in our success.

I wish I had known that it's OK to stand up for myself. That it's also OK to not be liked but to be respected, and I always want to be liked.

"A closed mouth doesn't get fed." Oftentimes, we feel not worthy or we don't want to bother people. We forget to ask for help or what we need or would like. My grandmother used to say that quote to us as kids. It's kind of always stuck with me.

Standing in our power requires us to let go of the need to make others like us & instead stand committed to honoring ourselves.

My hope for the future, not just in the music industry, but in every young girl I meet…is that they all realize their worth and ask for it.

And I not only have the right to stand up for myself, but I have the responsibility. I can't ask somebody else to stand up for me if I won't stand up for myself. And once you stand up for yourself, you'd be surprised that people say, "Can I be of help?"