Rozonda Thomas Quotes

We are all better served by objectively diagnosing trolls so they can change.

Before you decide to have an argument, think about what you really want to accomplish. Do you just want to let your feelings out, or is there a point you are trying to make? What is it?

We're always working on our communication, which is something that's important. Instead of going through managers to discuss things, we will sit down and have meetings about things. That's a process. And you have to be able to be honest with each other as much as you can.

People love to take sides, but it's not effective. It's not really an effective way of communicating something, because you're either already part of the side or you're going to feel attacked and get defensive.

If there is a situation, I try to take a step back, cool down, and solve the problem. Flipping out, freaking out, and being very rude about it is not going to help.

If I have a problem with somebody, I go ahead and say what's on my mind.

To solve a marriage problem, you have to talk with each other about it, choosing wisely the time and place. But when accusations and lengthy speeches of defense fill the dialogue, the partners are not talking to each other but past each other. Take care to listen more than you speak. If you still can't agree on a solution, consider asking a third party, without a vested interest, to mediate.

What will support any relationship is clear, complete and conscious conversations when upsets or breakdowns occur.

While exceptional employees don't seek conflict, they don't run away from it either. They're able to maintain their composure while presenting their positions calmly and logically. They're able to withstand personal attacks in pursuit of the greater goal and never use that tactic themselves.

We experience problem-solving sessions as war zones, we view competing ideas as enemies, and we use problems as weapons to blame and defeat opposition forces. No wonder we can't come up with real lasting solutions!

You don’t quit when you are in the middle of a conflict…. My job was not to have a fit and walk out. My job was to give the President my best advice.

We can argue and we can disagree, but we don’t need to poke our fingers in each other’s eyes in order to get our points across.

The two sides should … stop blaming the other side and instead step back and consider what in their own behavior has contributed the derailment..

Don't raise your voice, improve your argument.

There's a certain time that when somebody asks you a question, you answer them. I don't think I said anything with venom. If you can express yourself without anger and make it as palatable as you can, that's what you do.

The Bible clearly says that when we have a problem with our brother, we are to go to them and try to resolve the situation.

If yelling and threatening, intimidating and chanting solved problems, Illinois wouldn't have any problems. We're good at that stuff.

I'm always ready to negotiate in good faith with others.

Miscommunication is the number one cause of all problems; communication is your bridge to other people. Without it, there's nothing. So when it's damaged, you have to solve all these problems it creates.

If you disagree with the way a colleague did something, call him up, invite him out for a coffee, talk about it. But don't do it publicly.

Although everyone fights, few people know how to have a good argument, an argument that clears the air and makes it less likely a future argument will take place on the same subject.

I expect if people have had a problem with me or my attitude, then they come and take it directly with me, face to face.

Pick a co-founder that communicates in the same fashion that you do. If you are a screamer, then the only way you will ever listen to a conflicting point of view is to find someone who is passionate enough to yell back at you.

If I had a row with my husband, it's not going to work my saying, 'Right, if you don't do what I want, I'm going to walk out.' It doesn't work on any level. What you do is you go in and you say, 'I have a problem. You have a problem. Let's try and sort this out together.' You don't come to an agreement with people who you're falling out with badly.

I really don't like it when members of bands slag each other off in the press. If you've got a problem, you should sort it out without going public.