Boris Kodjoe Quotes

I was so determined not to pass on to my children what I perceived to be the faults of my upbringing.

Quite often in life, when a tragic event arrives it becomes a springboard for mirroring all other things in one's life that one hasn't come to terms with.

I was left to painstakingly deal with the aftermath of my avoidance later in life, in therapy or through the lyrics of my songs.

It's not foreign for me to be talking about my problems in circles.

My lifestyle is a consequence of my wounds. I'm the son of my history.

I don't choose characters with the intention of working something out in my personal life.

My greatest fear for my child is that he marries a woman exactly like me.

Remember: You are the common denominator in all your relationship problems. Wherever you go, your pesky repeated issues go - until you shed a blazing light of insight upon them.

The people and places that cause terror in childhood cause attraction in adulthood. We end up being repetitively attracted to the same kind of person that obliges us by acting out the same behavior over again.

Until you, I didn't consider my past as an issue. Yes, it affected certain ways I did things, but everything had its place and I wasn't unhappy. In fact, I thought I had a comfortable and uncomplicated life." "Oh boy." My nose wrinkled. "Hello, Mr Comfortable. I'm Miss Complicated." His grin flashed. "Never a dull moment.

Much of the work of midlife is to tell the difference between those who are dealing with their issues through you and those who are really dealing with you.

When we find delight in another person, we've actually found something joyful inside ourselves that involves a shift in our awareness, a shift in our perception, because the same person is not necessarily attractive to other people.In relationship, whenever we're drawn to someone or repelled by someone, they're both mirrors of the self. We're attracted to people in whom we find traits that we want or desire in our own selves. And we are repelled by people in whom we find traits that we're denying in ourselves. So relationship is a true mirror of where we are in our evolution in consciousness.

Why do you wonder that globetrotting does not help you, seeing that you always take yourself with you? The reason that set you wandering is ever at your heels.

Before I can face the future, I must first deal with the past.

Wherever you go, you will always bear yourself about with you, and so you will always find yourself.

Wherever you go, you take yourself with you.

A lot of my friends they call me 'the therapist'. They come to me looking for advice. I must be doing something right because they keep coming back. But I'm not very good at kind of looking into my own world and trying to pick apart what is really wrong and fix those things. I like to kind of shy away from certain issues and turn away.

Catch up with your past, before it catches up with you.

you can't get away from yourself by moving from one place to another.

[Relationships] do not cause pain and unhappiness. They bring out the pain and unhappiness that is already in you

Blame enables us to smuggle our issues into our future.

Does my behavior in respect of love affect nothing? That is because there is not enough love in me.

She realized all at once the deeper thing that bothered her, the thing that made him not just irritating but intolerable: how he kept loving her blindly when she deserved it so little.

All relationship is a reflection of your relationship with yourself.

In running away from ourselves we either fall on our neighbor's shoulder or fly at his throat.