Brene Brown Quotes

What is the point of abusing yourself with guilt in the first place? If you did make a mistake and act in a hurtful way, your guilt won't reverse your blunder in some magical manner. It won't speed your learning processes so as to reduce the chance you'll make the same mistake in the future. Other people won't love and respect you more because you are feeling guilty and putting yourself down in this manner. Nor will your guilt lead to productive living. So what's the point?

Shame corrodes the very part of us that believes we are capable of change.

I remove the work should from my vocabulary forever. Should is a word that makes a prisoner of me. Every time I say should, I am making myself wrong, or I am making someone else wrong. I am, in effect, saying I am not good enough.

However unchristian it may seem, I do not even bear any ill feeling towards myself.

All that you really want in life is to change how you feel.

Change the way you speak about yourself and you can change your life.

When people feel that they have failed, it's usually because somebody or something caused them to feel that way and taste defeat. I refuse to dwell on that. Yes, it sucks at first, and the feeling is valid, but it all happens for a reason.

You can't make someone feel good about themselves until you feel good about yourself.

When you feel WHOLE, things come to enhance your WHOLEness. When you feel broken, things come to enhance your brokenness. That's why you CANNOT FILL A VOID. That's why the premise from which you attract your relationship is so important.

You are your only hope, because we're not changing until you do. Our job is to keep coming at you, as hard as we can, with everything that angers, upsets, or repulses you, until you understand. We love you that much, whether we're aware of it or not. The whole world is about you.

I release any feelings of competition or comparison. I simply do my best and enjoy being me.

I'm not OK, you're not OK-and that's OK.

It's our job to first make ourselves feel better and then make ourselves feel good.

I once considered writing a book called I'm not OK and you're not OK, and that's OK.

Don't strive for perfection. It doesn't exist. Strive for a better you. That's always in reach.

Self-love helps me make positive changes easily

You must love and care for yourself, because that's when the best comes out.

I really don't need to suffer. I can really become a happy person and still make good music - in fact, better music.

We either make ourselves miserable, or we make ourselves strong. The amount of work is the same.

I learnt one thing in the past or in my life: the only person you can change is yourself, and it has to come from within.

Certainly, we all have within us the potential to live in a hugely different way. And how happy you can make yourself, I think, a lot depends on how much you beat yourself up about that; and how much you can, in some sort of providential way, console yourself and say, 'Well, it's all worked out for the best, in the best of all possible worlds.'

Guilt is just as powerful, but its influence is positive, while shame's is destructive. Shame erodes our courage and fuels disengagement.

I am not racked with self-loathing. Some issues of guilt and shame, but I'm a pretty good guy.

For so long, I was ashamed of my past, and I think that crippled me a lot in having confidence.

The biggest lesson I’ve learned is, “It’s okay.” It’s okay for me to be kind to myself. It’s okay to be wrong. It’s okay to get mad. It’s ok to be flawed. It’s okay to be happy. It’s okay to move on.