Melody Beattie Quotes

If you spend your life trying to please people or letting them control you, you may make them happy, but you'll miss your destiny.

I'm done living for other people. I'm done being a people pleaser. I'm done thinking about what people think about me.

My life choices are not supposed to be the gateway to somebody else's. That's my journey.

Be yourself, take control of your life.

I'm going to do what I want to do. I'm going to be who I really am. I'm going to figure out what that is.

It's my life, it's up to me what I want to do with it. And I'm realizing that.

Figure out who you are separate from your family, and the man or woman you're in a relationship with. Find who you are in this world and what you need to feel good alone. I think that's the most important thing in life. Find a sense of self because with that, you can do anything else.

The rule for every man is, not to depend on the education which other men have prepared for him-not even to consent to it; but to strive to see things as they are, and to be himself as he is. Defeat lies in self-surrender.

There is nothing enlightening about shrinking so that other people

I have to live for me. I have to do what I need to do for me, and I have stopped concerning myself with what people say.

Don't shrink to meet the expectations of others, grow to become the person you want to be.

What does it mean to be an individual? What does it mean to flourish?

Everybody eventually discovers that they are an individual with the power to affect their own lives and make it better or not.

I can't point to a single person or incident that changed my life, but the recognition that there is a certain world order, has been consequential. It has empowered me to do things my way. I found an inner truth by which I abide.

It's a life's journey of finding ourselves, finding our power, and living for yourself, not for everyone else.

People aren't defined by their relationship. The whole point is being true to yourself and not losing yourself in relationships, whether romances or friendships.

In a very slow way, I found my path. Even now, I think, 'If I can't do it my way, I'd rather not do it.'

I want to be defined by my own essence.

You come to realize that only one person can tell you what's expected of you, and that's you.

I do what I feel I know how to do and don't do things that I don't. I'm a product of my sensibility.

I like my life. I'm not living through anybody else's eyes, anybody else's life; I'm enjoying mine.

I think everybody needs to find out who they are and who their, like, inner superhero is, or who you like to be. The world would be a better place if everyone was doing what the hell they wanted to do and being who they wanted to be.

What I try to pass on in my work for everyone is that we can be who we want.

The big message is, you're the star in your own life. You don't have to change; you are who you are. Go and do what you want to do.

To transcend and be yourself... I have no reason to tell you, and others, something that is not of interest to you.