Melody Beattie Quotes

Shame corrodes the very part of us that believes we are capable of change.

I gave up shame a long time ago.

I stopped worrying about being desired a long time ago.

I learned to forgive myself, and that enabled me to forgive my mother as a person.

I don't need to prove myself through competition anymore.

Love and respect yourself and never compromise for anything. And then you will be surprised how much growth starts happening of its own accord.. as if rocks have been removed and the river has started flowing.

It's when I let myself get little that I tumble head over heels into joy.

Learn to forgive yourself and move on.

Imagine what else is true if you understood there is nothing fundamentally wrong with you.

It takes a while to really love yourself...

Forgiveness is a CHOICE, not a feeling.

I want to accept myself completely, just as I am.

Self love is a great recurring theme, the headwaters that feed my ability to be the best version of myself in every other aspect of my life. Self worth sets the standard that life meets.

Self-esteem does not mean feeling good all the time. Self-esteem means loving yourself even when you feel badly...even when you make a mistake. It means loving yourself even when you're depressed. It means that you accept yourself fully.

Being perfect is being flawed, accepting it, and never letting it make you feel less than your best.

I stopped beating up on myself. I stopped asking myself why I didn't sell this number of records, why I don't have corporate sponsorship. I just don't buy into any of that anymore.

You can't spend your life beating yourself up for something that happened yesterday. You die if you don't follow your desire.

I was doing a children's book on self-esteem, and I really felt like I wanted to shed the shame I'd been feeling - and maybe make it easier for women my age who had probably felt bad about themselves.

When I was around 18, I looked in the mirror and said, 'You're either going to love yourself or hate yourself.' And I decided to love myself. That changed a lot of things.

Self-love has very little to do with how you feel about your outer self. It's about accepting all of yourself.

Much protective self-criticism stems from growing up around people who wouldn't or couldn't love you, and it's likely they still can't or won't. In general, however, the more you let go of the tedious delusion of your own unattractiveness, the easier it will be for others to connect with you, and the more accepted you'll feel.

My inner child is not wounded.

Age has given me the gift of me; it just gave me what I was always longing for, which was to get to be the woman I've already dreamt of being. Which is somebody who can do rest and do hard work and be a really constant companion, a constant, tender-hearted wife to myself.

I feel enough distance from the person I used to be. I'm not ashamed about my life anymore, because I've learnt from it.

My roots allow me to let go of the fear of failure.