Michael Heseltine Quotes

I'd rather trust nine people and have the 10th one stab me in the back. I'd take that fall in order to have those nine friendships or working relationships instead of having none. That's not living.

Sex isn't hard, but intimacy is terrifying.

The one thing that keeps us out of connection is our fear that we're not worthy of connection.

A hunted man sometimes wearies of distrust and longs for friendship.

Save me from the ranks of the freaks who suspect they can never love anyone.

Fear destroys intimacy. It distances us from each other; or makes us cling to each other, which is the death of freedom.... Only love can create intimacy, and freedom too, for when all hearts are one, nothing else has to be one--neither clothes nor age; neither sex nor sexual preference; race nor mind-set.

We want to be in open, loving communion with each other and our greatest fear is intimacy. That it won't work and we'll be rejected.

I had a very easy time loving an audience. But when it's one-on-one with somebody, all I wanted to do was run away, because maybe they're going to want something from me I can't give, or they're going to hurt me.

In this world, there was nothing scarier than trusting someone. But there was also nothing more rewarding.

But I think if it's the right person, you wouldn't have to work so hard at intimacy. I think—hope—it would just happen naturally. Otherwise, opening up to the wrong person..." I made a face. "Like putting ammo in their hands.

Fear is the great enemy of intimacy. Fear makes us run away from each other or cling to each other but does not create true intimacy.

I never trusted anybody at all. I don't know why it was so hard, I just didn't.

I started to build barriers between myself and others to protect myself.

If fear is the great enemy of intimacy, love is its true friend.

When you're surrounded by all these people, it can be even lonelier than when you're by yourself. You can be in a huge crowd, but if you don't feel like you can trust anybody or talk to anybody, you feel like you're really alone.

When I was a kid - 10, 11, 12, 13 - the thing I wanted most in the world was a best friend. I wanted to be important to people; to have people that understood me. I wanted to just be close to somebody.

It's a very intimate thing to invite someone into your home; there's a lot of trust involved.

How we need another soul to cling to.

People who find that they have a lot of drama in their relationships need to allow themselves to get 'bored'. At first, it will feel excruciating, and they may find themselves confronting a very real fear underneath all that drama: being truly close and therefore vulnerable to another human being.

Most people have a harder time letting themselves love than finding someone to love them.

Even where friendship is concerned, it takes me a long time to trust people.

I spent a lot of time protecting myself. I mean, I've met a lot of extraordinary people over the years - and I just wish I had been able to open myself up to them more.

If you are afraid of being lonely, don't try to be right.

To have a great man for an intimate friend seems pleasant to those who have never tried it; those who have, fear it.

I can count on one hand how many people I trust.