Tom Stoppard Quotes

Being attached to someone is not about the other person. It is about your own sense of inadequacy.

If I am attached to another person because I cannot stand on my own two feet, he or she may be a life saver, but the relationship is not one of love.

You shouldn't have to give things up for someone. If you love them someone, you should love them for everything they do and all that they are. I love acting and I wouldn't give it up for anything, and I don't know anyone in my life who would ask me to give it up.

Co-dependence...taking someone else's temperature to see how you feel.

Women without men are usually nervous. ... The important thing is to have a man, even if you just like him. Pleasing him, you will please yourself.

If you're not someone who has a natural and effortless love for yourself, it's hard to let go of your desire to please other people, and that's really not an ingredient for a happy life.

I'm not defined by baseball. I'd love for the Hall of Fame to happen, but if it doesn't, my life won't change. I'll still be coaching my boy's games.

I'm a perfectionist. I need to be needed. I need to do things for a man. But I don't need to do them as much, these days.

A woman doesn't just love a man. She loves who he is. And, who he is is dependent on what he needs.

It's interesting when you wind up distilling all your ambitions and your goals and dreams into one single person. It's giving that person a lot of power.

I was smart and married somebody who could do for me what I couldn't do for myself.

In our relationship, we don't have that situation. I don't require what he needs, and he doesn't require what I need. I know what I do; I have an amazing life that nobody knows about.

I just can't see myself as a trophy wife. I can't imagine not having my own life.

Marriage, to women as to men, must be a luxury, not a necessity; an incident of life, not all of it.

The person who needs the other person the least in a relationship is the stronger member.

I always thought I needed the support of someone in a long-term relationship to make me whole.

Being codependent means that when you die, someone else's life passes before your eyes.

I love writing, it's the center of my life. If you don't love what you do, you'd better find something else to love. Otherwise, you don't have a reason for living.

...people liking you or not liking you is an accident and is to do with them and not you. That goes for love too, only more so.

It does not make you less of a woman to need a man. To need one to exist, yes, this is nonsense. To need one to give one scope and importance, this is dishonest. But to need a man, one man, to bring joy and passion? This is life

Your whole being is involved in taking care of someone else, worrying about what they think of you, how they treat you, how you can make them treat you better. Right now everyone in the world seems to think that they are codependent and that they come from dysfunctional families. They call it codependency. I call it the human condition.

It is sad and wrong to be so dependent for the life of my life on any human being as I am on you; but I cannot by any force of logic cure myself at this date, when it has become second nature.

You fixed yourself. You didn’t need me.” “No, Sydney.” My voice was ragged. “I do need you. You have no idea how much I need you.

I think there are plenty of men out there who are capable and accomplished in their own realm. You don't have to be in the same field. I've often been asked, "Didn't you want to get married?" And of course I wanted to get married, but you have to fall in love and want to marry a particular person. You don't get married in the abstract. So, although there were people I felt I might have married, it just never happened.

Getting love is a very small experience. It is the experience of beggar.