Allison Pearson Quotes

You remember the finals you lose as much as the ones you win.

You don't forget everything that happens when you win, and you definitely don't forget what happens when you lose.

No memory of having starred atones for later disregard, or keeps the end from being hard.

I don't remember the first time I won. I remember the first time I lost, and it sucked. It was go-karts; I was, like, 6 years old.

The challenge as a parent is letting your kids fail in the right ways because that's where we do most of our learning.

I remember far more shots that cost me matches than the ones that won me matches. That is maybe the way you think if you are someone who has won a lot of tournaments and had a successful career.

I'm not a mom that's going to tell my kids everybody wins.

I've got two wonderful children - and two out of five isn't too bad.

It's impossible to protect your kids against disappointment in life.

A father is a man who fails every day.

One of the most valuable lessons I learned...is that we all have to learn from our mistakes, and we learn from those mistakes a lot more than we learn from the things we succeeded in doing.

Experience, they say, is the best teacher, but we get the grade first and the lesson later.

As you get older, you have more and more layers of experience to forgive, more layers of heartbreak, more layers of what you might think of as failure.

There are no failures, only outcomes. As long as I learn something, I am succeeding.

Your children will smash your understanding, knowledge and reality. You will be better off. Then they will leave. You'll miss them forever.

Raising children who are hopeful and who have the courage to be vulnerable means stepping back and letting them experience disappointment, deal with conflict, learn how to assert themselves, and have the opportunity to fail. If we’re always following our children into the arena, hushing the critics, and assuring their victory, they’ll never learn that they have the ability to dare greatly on their own.

No one starts as a self-hater. But rack up all of your mistakes and take a large enough number of wrong turns in life and soon you stop trying to forgive yourself. Everywhere you look you find shame or failure staring back.

I used to believe my father about everything but then I had children myself & now I see how much stuff you make up just to keep yourself from going crazy.

The good parent: someone who doesn't mind, for a time, being hated by their children.

Failures aren't failures if you learn something from them.

Now, more than ever, I realize just how illusory my undeserved success has been. I still hold out some hope of doing better, but age and unhappiness have sapped my strength.

What the world calls failure, I call learning.

How many really capable men are children more than once during the day!

Time does not really exist for mothers, with regard to their children. It does not matter greatly how old the child is-in the blink of an eye, a mother can see the child again as they were when they were born, when they learned how to walk, as they were at any age-at any time, even when the child is fully grown or a parent themselves.

Every time you fail, you learn more.